Ants & Bees

Stop Animal Abuse!

2011-09-06T19:23:00.000-07:00

WHAT!!! animal abuse again??! When I first heard this sad news on the radio, I cannot stop thinking why such people would do something like this?!! I was angry and so sad almost cried just thinking about the pain and suffering these animal have to go through.

Its heartbreaking to see such thing are happening in Malaysia. Not long ago a video was posted in youtube showing a man abusing a toy puddle has shaken-up Malaysian, a petition Stop Animal Abuse was setup, and few other animal abuse incident was reported. Despite the effort from Animal Lover to combat to have more stringent law on animal cruelty, yet again another incident happen where a so call "pet lover" owns a Pet hotel have left 300 cats in a cage without food or water for days, and out of these 16 cats has died. According to The Star, the owner claimed they have took more cats than they could handle. But then I still feel if you are an animal lover this should not happen at the first place, its just not making any sense.

I really hope many more kind hearted people will reach out to support this cause Stop Animal Abuse. I also believed that if you tought of having a pet please get it from an animal shelter there are hundreds of cats and dog begging to be loved and I think they deserved.

As I was googling for dogs and cats image for this blog post, came accross lot of animal cruelty photos, can't help it but cry. :(

Want to adopt a dog or cat? Please go to SPCA KK or SPCA Selangor, and please show some love.

Selemat Hari Merdeka!

2011-08-28T18:25:00.000-07:00

I would like to wish my fellow Malaysian

Selamat hari Merdeka!!

Happy Holiday to all

Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri!

2011-08-28T18:22:00.000-07:00

I would like to wish to my relatives and friends

Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri

Maaf Zahir dan Batin

Drive safetly! :)

5 mins free time

2011-08-18T20:18:00.000-07:00

Yes i purposely post this just for the sake of posting it, cus i only have 5 mins free time before my little girl screaming for attention again, she's busy doin something exploring i guess. Well today i had to take leave tombaby sit my baby, my MIL had to go for a medical check up for her next eye operation this coming monday.

I wanted to post some pics but because i'm using my ipad seems tht the photo upload button is unable (shucks!)

Wokeh gtg now she saw n and wante...a piece too ...fjghhjtjvbjvurjgv

Louanna and her Cloth Diaper

2011-07-09T01:15:00.000-07:00

some of the new CD's I bought - Nice Cloth Diaper and ClothDiaperMommy.com

Half of the CD collection

Pose No 1

Pose No 2

Pose No 3

Pose No 4

Pose No 5

The one only CD that I bought with velcro, and I love it

Monster Diaper Cover - Chago Mago

Mr Wasabi

Monster Diaper Cover - Chago Mago

Mr Yellow Fellow

My pumpkin puree

2011-07-08T23:48:00.000-07:00

Making own pumpkin puree is pretty easy and healthy too. I was a bit rajin today. In between preparing this puree. Louanna was busy climbing up the chairs and table.

1. Cut the pumpkin into halves

2. Scrap out the seeds with a spoon

3. Cut the halves pumpkin into smaller size, and lay on the tray, add some water. Lay it downward and skin upward.

4. Baked at 190 C for 40 minutes

5. Once done, leave it to cool down

6. Once the pumpkin has cool enough to handle, scrap out the "meat"

7. Blend it until smooth. Now you get yourself a pumpkin puree.

8. You can store in a air tight container and keep in the fridge.

For baby food, this pumpkin puree is ready to use anytime.

Its best mix with :
1. Apple
2. Avocado
3. Banana
4. Oats

Happy trying!

Unit Trust vs ASB

2011-07-01T20:07:00.000-07:00

For those who are still in the grey area or unsure what is the difference between Unit Trust and ASB, I hope this could help you in undertsanding the basic concept of the two. Either way both are an investment scheme and I encourage people to invest for future needs. Each and everyone has different portfolio, and by understanding better on what or how you going to invest, you can design your own perference that you are comfortable with, this has to start NOW not tomorrow or later, because as quoted by Benjamin Franklin "TIME is MONEY" happy investing.

UNIT TRUST

Various types

There are many funds available to cater for various needs of investors from different age group (i.e. for example 20-35 aggressive funds, 36-45, moderate/balance funds, 46-60 fixed income funds)

Some funds are specific for guaranteed annual dividend (PIDF, PIADF, PDSF)
Some funds have foreign investment flavor (PCIF, PGBF, PFEBF, PFES, PGSF)
Some funds focus on specific sectors to maximize the return potential from sectors which are benefiting the most at any specific time (PISSF, PFEPRF, PFECTF, PRSEC, PSMALLCAP, PSSF)
Some funds offer specific Shariah-compliant funds(PIBF, PITTIKAL, PAIF, PIEF, PISTF, PIOF)
Some funds offer exposure to fixed-income & money market investment (PISBF, PBOND, PINBOND, PIBOND, PMMF, PSBF, PEBF)

Fluctuate prices

Unit prices are based on NAV, which values fluctuates according to their underlying market value, calculated on daily basis. This characteristic allows investors the possibility of capital gains (as well as losses).

Islamic Fund Option
For those staunched Muslims who are very particular in ensuring their hard-earned income are 100% HALAL, they have the options to subscribe to Islamic funds as mentioned above. Public’s Islamic funds are vetted by the Shariah Advisory Council of SC.

Distribution

Except for income-based funds, distributions are incidental. Distribution rate can be higher or lower than ASB’s. However, Public’s track record speaks for itself. It has been paying consistent distribution for almost all funds for the past 10 years or so. (For Public Ittikal, total return from launching date of 10 Apr 1997 to 31 Dec 2007 is 261.13% or average 26.113% p.a. Total return refers to capital gain + distributions allocated during the period. Source of info: Public Mutual Adept system)

Distribution Calculation

Distribution is calculated based on number of units held at ‘cum’ entitlement and not prorated based on the timing of unit purchases.

For example, assume Fund “A” financial year end is May 31. On June 3^rd, it declared a distribution of 2 sen per unit. if an investor purchases 10, 000 units on May 28^th, he would be getting 10,000 x RM0.02 = RM200 equivalent of distribution (based on simple method)

High liquidity

Easy to buy & sell, redemption proceeds w/in 10 working days & 24-hour for Mutual Gold members.

Privately managed & good brand
Public Mutual is backed by Public Bank Group, voted the most prudent bank by local & foreign ratings’ companies. Also in a recent local survey, PBB is ranked no.1 in terms of good corporate governance

ASB

One type fund
For Bumiputra investors (mostly Malay investors) PNB offers Skim Amanah Saham Bumiputra i.e. ASB only, even though they can also invest in other funds offered by PNB, such as ASW2020 & ASGemilang, but these funds are also offered to non-Bumi investors.
Fixed price
Entry & exit price is fixed to RM1.00 a unit, no possibility of capital losses (as well as capital gains)

Not pure Islamic Fund
ASB fund comprises of Malaysian listed stocks including banking stocks such as Maybank to name a few, which is a NON-HALAL stock as prescribed by SC Shariah Advisory Council.
Distribution (known as Dividend)
Performance (as well as popularity) solely depend on the rate of dividend paid out annually. The trend however, has been on a declining rate. (ASB average returns for 1 year = 8%, 2 years = 7.65% & 3 years = 7.52%. Source of info: ASB annual report ended Dec 31, 2007)

Dividend Calculation

Dividend is calculated based on full year maturity and will be prorated if the investment is made less than 1 full year.

For example, ASB financial year-end is every Dec. Supposed an investor made an initial investment of $5,000 in Jan ’07 and subsequent additional investment of RM1,000 every 3 months, i.e. in Apr, Jul & Oct ’07. At book closing date, ASB declares an 8 sen per unit dividend over RM1.00 per unit price or 8% div rate.

The said investor will receive;-

Month Amt $ Div at 8% Div Amt $

Jan $ 5,000 12 mnth $ 400.00

Apr $ 1,000 8 mnth $ 53.33

Jul $ 1,000 5 mnth $ 33.33

Oct $ 1,000 2 mnth $ 13.33

Total $ 8,000 $ 499.99

Actual dividend rate earned 6.25%

Capital guaranteed

Fixed entry & exit price guarantees the capital preservation, but no capital gain opportunity

High liquidity

Easy to buy & sell and can be done within a day. Available through many branches of appointed agents, such as Maybank, RHB Bank, CIMB, etc.

Government backed

Managed by PNB, a major government agency, hence considered stable investment.

So from this can you now understand what is Unit Trust and ASB? Here I would like to show the comparison between the two

Public Ittikal (Unit Trust) vs ASB

Public Ittikal

Free insurance coverage by ETIQA Takaful (RM1 coverage for every 1 unit held), subject to minimum 5,000 units held & maximum insurance coverage of RM100, 000.
Unitholders aged between 18 and 59 are eligible for the coverage.
Eligible unitholders will be given group term life & group personal accident coverage.
Distribution based on # of outstanding units’ held, regardless holding time, as long as units acquired before the distribution is declared.
No maximum limit of investment per investor subject to availability of units.
Charges for Public Ittikal Fund: (Source of info: Public Mutual website)

Service Charge - Up to 5.5% of NAV per unit
Repurchase Charge - NIL
Annual Management Fee - 1.5% per annum of the NAV
Annual Trustee Fee - 0.07% per annum of NAV, subject to a minimum fee of RM18,000 and a maximum fee of RM600,000 per annum.

ASB

No insurance coverage.
Must maintain investment w/in 12-month period to enjoy full dividend, otherwise, dividend will be prorated accordingly.
Maximum investment RM200, 000 per investor (excluding units earned from dividend payout).
Management fee of 0.35% of NAV p.a.
Trustee Fee of RM500, 000 p.a.
Management Expense Ratio for year 2007 is 0.37% vs. 0.36% for 2006. It is calculated based on the ratio between total management fees and redeemed units expenses, with average unit for any financial year is calculated based on minimum monthly balance.

Installing Love On The Human Computer

2011-06-12T21:38:00.000-07:00

I received an email, and would like to share this with my blog reader.

As I was busy trying to explain what 'limiting beliefs' were to a friend,my phone went dead. Hmmm... stranger things happened to me, I thought. SHE was the one who asked ME the question, so I know she didn't hang up. As I tried to rationalize, I made myself a tea andwent to the phone. It was still dead. Puzzled, I tried the next mode of communication. The computer!

I first had to check my incoming before I could send her an email. I waited. There were 9 emails. This message was contained within the first email. A message part of 'The Belief Buster Mini Course Program’. Coincidence? Nah! I believe things happen for a reason.

So I emailed it to her.

This is what I read. I'll share it with you...

Tech Support: Yes, how can I help you?
Customer: Well, after much consideration, I've decided to install Love. Can you guide me through the process?

Tech Support: Yes. I can help you. Are you ready to proceed?

Customer: Well, I'm not very technical, but I think I'm ready. What do I do first?

Tech Support: The first step is to open your Heart. Have you located your Heart?

Customer: Yes, but there are several other programs running now.Is it okay to install Love while they are running?

Tech Support: What programs are running?

Customer: Let's see, I have Past Hurt, Low Self-Esteem, Grudge and Resentment running right now.

Tech Support: No problem, Love will gradually erase Past Hurt from your current operating system. It may remain in your permanent memory but it will no longer disrupt other programs. Love will eventually override Low Self-Esteem with a module of its own called High Self-Esteem. However, you'll have to completely turn off Grudge and Resentment. Those programs prevent Love from being properly installed. Can you turn those off?

Customer: I don't know how to turn them off. Can you tell me how?

Tech Support: With pleasure. Go to your start menu and invoke Forgiveness. Do this as many times as necessary until Grudge and Resentment have been completely erased.

Customer: Okay, done! Love has started installing itself. Is that normal?

Tech Support: Yes, but remember you have only the base program. You need to begin connecting to other Hearts in order to get the upgrades.

Customer: Oops! I have an error message already. It says, "Error - Program not run on external components." What should I do?

Tech Support: Don't worry. It means the Love program is set up to run on Internal Hearts, but has not yet been run on your Heart. In non-technical terms, it simply means you have to Love yourself before you can Love others.

Customer: So, what should I do?

Tech Support: Pull down Self-Acceptance; then click on the following files: Forgive-Self; Realize Your Worth; and Acknowledge Your Limitations.

Customer: Okay, done.

Tech Support: Now, copy them to the "My Heart" directory. The system will overwrite any conflicting files and begin patching faulty programming. Also, you need to delete Self-Criticism from all directories and empty your Recycle Bin to ensure it's completely gone and never comes back.

Customer: Got it. Hey! My heart is filling up with new files. Smile is playing on my monitor and Peace and Contentment are copying themselves all over My Heart. Is this normal?

Tech Support: Sometimes. For others it takes awhile, but eventually everything gets it at the proper time. So Love is installed and running. One more thing before we hang up. Love is Freeware. Be sure to give it and its various modules to everyone you meet. They will in turn share it with others and return some cool modules back to you.

Customer: Thank you.

Tech Support: You're Most Welcome.

- Anonymous

Funny thing happened. The phone rang almost immediately. It was my friend. She explained she dropped the phone and it went dead. Then she too, went to computer to email me. And got distracted by my email to her.

"Now I understand completely what you meant by 'limiting beliefs,'" she said.

"Thank you!"

...I smiled. I knew she NOW knew what I meant. Yes, things DO happen for a reason.
Always Expect Miracles!

--- Copyright © 2010 Kassie Wright

Yoga makes me feel stronger and better

2011-06-02T19:27:00.000-07:00

For a working mom like me, it's quite difficult to find time to exercise. I used to jog a lot but that was 10 years ago. I had to stop due to circumstances, and from there on to start back exercising requires some level of motivation.

Well, after giving birth to my baby, darling Louanna, seems that my body is out of shape. Though I did lost weight back to my previous about 48-49 kg, but I do not seem fit as before, can see the bulging fats especially tummy area. Majority women have problem in this area.

Instead of going for the slimming pills, slimming shakes and what not, I choose exercise as my tools to shed down the extra pounds and keep the weight off.

I found out that we have YOGA class in our company, took the chances and join in April 2011. It was not as easy as you think, you need strenght and flexiblity to perform certain posture. I was facinated by my Yoga instructor his body is so flexible and strong, the posture is so beautiful.

The 1st few classes was struggle for me. I was not familiar with the term and routine of the Yoga exercise. Soon after much exercise, it gets better and better. I look leaner and stronger, I love the way I look more tone and complexity changes too, more healtier, not to forget stress free. :)

I started my own yoga regime at home too. Bought a book "Yoga for Beginners" for RM34, its for beginners and intermediate level. Definitely will get Louanna to learn yoga too. I remember my dad use to do weight lifting when I was a kid, and of course seeing him at it, somehow me and little brother got into it as well. Same goes with martial arts, my dad was into Shorinji, my brother was into Taekwando, Shorinji, and Copeira. I was in Karate.

here are some of my few favourite pose:

Balasana (Child's Pose)

Balasana is a restful pose that can be sequenced between more challenging asanas.

The "Scorpion". I have not tried this one yet, but i love the posture its so elegant.

Halasana (Plow Pose)

Plow Pose reduces backache and can help you get to sleep

Age does not matter, even grandma can do Yoga

Salamba Sirsasana (Supported Headstand)

Standing on your head in proper alignment calms the brain and strengthens the body

I was not able to do this before, but now after practicing, I can do the headstand much more better, and I feel stronger

Pesta Kaamatan, mari aramaiti!!!!

2011-05-29T17:38:00.000-07:00

I missed Kaamatan again this year, could not make it due to $$ is on constrain mode. My last visit to Hongkod Koisan as way back in 2004. Can you believe that about 7 years ago, it was also Benard's 1st Kaamatan celebration. So by now all majority people in Sabah are celebrating the Harvest Festival, kinda miss them all.

Of course the highlight of the day would be the New Unduk Ngadau Crown Queen for 2011. Bangga tau, semua "avanus"(beautiful). Anyway for the 1st time I did attend the KL Kaamatan celebration on 8/5/11 in MCA building with Louanna and my mom, ada juga terubat sikit tu rindu being surrounded with fellow Sabahan :).

It's also a good time of the month for tourist to feel and experience our diversify culture, it's one of the event that one should not miss. Siok bah!!!

While eveybody is having "araimati"..me i KLstuck in my office..duhh..oh wel there's always next year :).

oh ya just in case you curious what is "aramaiti", it actually means "Lets party!"...lol...

Proud to be Sabahan :)

Natasha's Day

2011-05-29T04:42:00.000-07:00

Time flies so fast. Just 8 years ago Natasha was just a little girl, now sudah grown up. Her father and mother was very emotional seeing their not so little girl anymore wearing saree.

Natasha getting ready. Dress up like a bride

Proud momma looking at her baby

tired louanna

Borneo Ladies in saree, your's truly (blue saree) and Debbie (Sunithy's sister in law from Sarawak.)

Yes, really like a bride that's why ada "pelamin"..heheheh..

This photo was taken during their recent trip to Langkawi

Natasha and her 3 little brother - Nathaniel (White jeepa)), Naethan (brown jeepa) and Naemen(green shirt)

One of the custom. I got the honour to bless Natasha.

Proud father taking photo of his daughter

Louanna's great grandmother - Puttima

Camwhoring with Louanna

Benard unable to attend, caught up with work.

Me in my saree, nice or not, well not my saree, but pinjam from Sunithy

Spill the Beans: Unplanned trip to Lumut & Pangkor Island

2011-05-29T04:01:00.000-07:00

Spill the Beans: Unplanned trip to Lumut & Pangkor Island

Unplanned trip to Lumut & Pangkor Island

2011-05-29T03:51:00.000-07:00

About two weeks ago me, Louanna and my father in law, drive down to Lumut to see my hubby. He just recently moved into a house provided by the company, a single storey house. The journey took us about 3 hours driving without stoping. The next day Benard told us that he got a free room in Pangkor Island so we gonna stay there for the night. As usual Louanna had fun playing in the swimming pool. I think she "notolop" twice but does not seem to stop her from playing. We had dinner at Daddy's Cafe. We enjoyed the sunset it was sooooo beautiful. I did not manage to take any photo because I left my camera at the hotel room (Darn!)

Louanna had fun playing and walking on the sand barefeet, she seems to enjopy it so much she refused to sleep when she's actually very tired. I had about 3 glasses of cocktaill. Its the best..pening2 juga la.

Next morning about 9.30am, took Louanna for swimming again for about an hour. After cleaning her and packing our bags we head off to the mainland Marina Island. Had our breakfast and bought a durian. So cheap oh RM10/kg, sana KL RM18/KG (Udang Merah).

About 5.00pm we left Lumut and reached KL at 7.30pm. WAhh penat oh..next day kerja.. malas to the max

Cool eh?

Made friends

Fresh Oyster..sadapp

In the ferry on the way to Pangkor Island

Louanna and her father

Mommy!Mommy look at me!

The resort we staying in Anjungan Beach Resort

Louanna being cute. On the way back to Marina Island.

Dancing princess

2011-05-28T06:47:00.000-07:00

Louanna loves to dance. At 7 - 8 months she learn to shake her bump2. Be it an advertisement or jingle she will be dancing punya cuteeeee. Now at 13 months she have diff moves with her hand up in the air swaying left to right. She keeps us entertain what ajoy she is.

Make You Feel Perfect - by Pink

2011-05-26T18:07:00.000-07:00

I have heard this song many times before, but never really pay attention to the lyrics.

Until one day was stuck in a very bad jam, when I listened to the lyrics it somehow reminds me of my past painful experienced when I was still young and naive. Very painful yet it was one thing that made me who I am now.

Love the melody too. Mind the certain of the lyrics :)

Made a wrong turn
Once or twice
Dug my way out
Blood and fire
Bad decisions
That's alright
Welcome to my silly life

Mistreated, misplaced, missundaztood
Miss "no way it's all good"
It didn't slow me down
Mistaken
Always second guessing
Underestimated
Look, I'm still around...

Pretty, pretty please
Don't you ever, ever feel
Like your less than
F-ckin' perfect
Pretty, pretty please
If you ever, ever feel
Like your nothing
You're f-ckin' perfect to me

You're so mean
When you talk
About yourself
You are wrong
Change the voices
In your head
Make them like you
Instead

So complicated
Look how big you'll make it
Filled with so much hatred
Such a tired game
It's enough
I've done all I can think of
Chased down all my demons
See you same

Pretty, pretty please
Don't you ever, ever feel
Like your less than
F-ckin' perfect
Pretty, pretty please
If you ever, ever feel
Like your nothing

You're f-ckin' perfect to me
The world stares while I swallow the fear
The only thing I should be drinking is an ice cold beer
So cool in lying and I tried tried
But we try too hard, it's a waste of my time

Done looking for the critics, cuz they're everywhere
They don't like my genes, they don't get my hair
Stringe ourselves and we do it all the time
Why do we do that?
Why do I do that?
Why do I do that?

Ooh, pretty pretty pretty,
Pretty pretty please don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less then, f-ckin' perfect
Pretty pretty please if you ever ever feel
Like you're nothing you're f-ckin' perfect, to me
You're perfect

You're perfect
Pretty, pretty please don't you ever ever feel like you're less then, f-cking perfect
Pretty, pretty please if you ever ever feel like you're nothing you're f-cking perfect to me

Our routine

2011-05-25T15:37:00.000-07:00

Its 5.20am, any minute now little explorer will wake up askign for her milk. Just right then she making that manja2 sound cry like. I got up and make her milk, and she fell back to sleep soon after she finish her milk. This was one of our normal routine, or else she will give morning greeting with that cute smile and saying " tatatatatatatatatata ". Ok here we go.I give her small many kisses and hugs sampai she feel wanna break free. Check my fb for any updates, and then get ready to work. Missing her already :(

Jumpstart

2011-05-25T07:08:00.000-07:00

What happen to my blog? i've abondoned my blog for quite awhile now, hardly have time to sit down quietly to post anything in my blog. There's too many things to do with very limited time. Reading back all my old entries make me miss blogging very much not that i have so many things to post about hehehehe. Its time to jumpstart back again, hope ( fingers cross) able to find some time for my blog..till then adioss

She's one of my favourite Pillar

2011-03-23T18:32:00.000-07:00

I was tired and hungry (came back home only at 8.30pm), her face glows when she sees me at the front door. With that adoring smile suddenly the energy burst in me from nowhere probably my backup energy. Took and carried her in my arms, kissing and hugging her. Playing with her for an hour until it was almost her sleeping time. Only after that had my shower and dinner. I feel so blessed :) and can't wait to spend time with her this weekend. Mommy love you Louanna J

Louanna sweetie you are my strenght

Lulu's makeover

2010-08-08T03:44:00.000-07:00

Lulu's is now 3 months 3 weeks and 2 days old, how time flies. Today she had her studio photo since she already turning, my MIL ask to take studio photo, after that kasi gundul(botak) the head.

So at about 10.30am took her to the studio, i choose the 8R package + 4R size (RM45). I put her on the leggings I bought for her the other day, she look so adorable. Will post the pictures once ready, only show it to my family here on the Facebook (it's too exclusive and special). She was very good and kuai2, considering the hot weather, itu studio tidak pasang aircond, sia pula berpeluh-peluh.

After that took her to this Indian barber shop. I was sitting on the chair holding her. First the man put some water to wet her hair (senang mo cukur) to make sure she does not move when shaving my FIL had to hold her head to make it steady. About 20 seconds or so, Lulu suddenly crying, adui gia maybe she feel uncomfotable (it also happens when my MIL wash her face during mandi time), she was crying and crying...adui it breaks my heart, but I got be brave (almost mo nangis daa) and praying that it will over soon. I even ask the men to do it slowly and no need to kelam kabut, because when you hear Lulu's cry, adoi you tend do it cepat2. After about 10 minutes gitu its done. After that Lulu stops crying and look so helpless, kesian betul oh. I feel lega oh!

Before, miss cutie pie

After, still my cutie pie

We went back home and I feed her. She was very hungry, and fall asleep immediately. But then she opnly sleeps for 30 minutes, maybe not comfortable gatal-gatal, her baju full of her hair. I bath her and put this sandalwood on her head. Normally indian will use this after they shave the head, kasi sejuk2 tu kepala.

Tadaa

I tooks some photo of her to show her grandparents, uncle lionel and auntie mandy back in KK and her father in Lumut. Cute pula botak, just like me when I was a baby hehehehhe.

"Missing child: RM10,000 reward posted"

2010-07-09T08:54:00.000-07:00

It is very devastating to read the newspaper about missing child. I cannot fathom to bear such pain. Even thinking about it, really disturb my mind, often bring me to tears just thinking about all these innocent helpless little children abducted from their parents. I read this newspaper article about a girl, Nisha Chandramohan who was missing since 2nd June, she was only 2 years old, she was found missing after her aunt who is mentally ill took her out for a walk. They even offer RM10,000 as a reward to anybody who can find her.

I was on the way driving back home, thinking about it, and without me realizing it, I was literally crying wondering the fate of all this children who had been abducted. We always hear about missing child. Yet, somehow, it seems we’ve gone calloused and look at it as something so detached from our reality. Sad but true, there are real people who are suffering from this. So parents please, I repeat, please be aware of your childrens where abouts do not take this lighly because it can happen to anybody at anytime. Be extra cautious and do teach them not to trust strangers, teachers even relatives. When going for shopping at supermarkets or shopping mall do not let your children wandering themselves alone. These can be an easy target for abductors to get their prey.

Children still on police list of missing persons

Missing children statistic in Malaysia alone:

Year 2004 - 2,405

Year 2005 - 1,803

Year 2006 - 1,485

Year 2007 - 759

Year 2008 to 2009 - 4968 (1,859 still missing)

In Malaysia child trafficking for labour and sexual exploitation has become a multi-million ringgit trade fuelled by demand on both local and international, sad but true when there is a demand there is a supply, this is what is happening now. So always in a look out at all time and never take things for granted.

Particularly for cases of child abuse, there is a telephone line known as Teledera

Hot line Toll Free :1 - 80088 - 3040

Office Address: 6 - 16th, Wisma Shen, Jalan Masjid India, 50564, Kuala Lumpur.

Tel.: 603 - 29255011

It is opened to the general public to make complaints.

oh my little Lulu

2010-07-06T01:56:00.000-07:00

I just love the weekends, it is the only days I can fully spent time with Lulu. That Saturday MIL wanted to visit my brother-in-law in Klang, FIL was driving so I sat behind with LuIu on my lap. She really enjoy looking outside the car window but half way through she falls asleep.

She's now officially wearing a bib because she will wet her over baju and mittens with her saliva. Got to do some more shopping lah. :), not enough bib.

On Sunday we went to church, I decided to put her on the dress that I bought for her full moon. It was too big for her then, now at almost 2 months, it fits her perfectly. So happen her hat matches as her dress, so tadaaa..super cute..hehe

I also notice she is very friendly and would smile to anybody who greet her. Once I took her to the childrens room, there is this baby boy, I think same age as her, was staring at her and she stare's back at him, its so funny and cute, as if they were communicating or something..lol

Later that evening I took her to Tesco to do our monthly groceries. Gosh the traffic jam was so bad I regret ever going there. The rain made it worst, it has been raining for two days, and our laundry all is still wet including Lulu's cloth diaper, so temporary had to use the normal lampin. :(

Old way or modern way

2010-06-27T21:57:00.000-07:00

Every mother wants to give the best for her child. Now there are a lot things had change or evolve over the past years that concern on babies and children well being. The clothing, diapering, food, toys, medicine and education. Whereby intensive research and development has been put into place to provide all these are create a comfortable and practical way in bringing up our children.

For an example, baby detergent. Some 30 years ago there were no detergent specially for babies clothing even if there were it might be too expensive. Time has change each and every store you can now find detergent for babies which affordable too. Unfortunately there are few parents still ignorant about it and would use the normal detergent to wash their baby cloths. It may cost more but if could afford to buy, it would definitely beneficial for the children in term of health wise.

Another example is the diapering system. If you remember way back the the traditional "kain lampin" was the only system that been use for baby, and then they introduce this disposable diaper. Then again over years, with the high rising concern on our environment situation, disposable diaper is one of the many cause ruining our earth. Thus, a new and safer way has been introduce to overcome this ever rising problem, modern cloth diaper which is not only environment friendly it is also a baby friendly. However, some people had difficulties accepting changes, they are still many mothers using full time disposable diaper, sadly because they are ignorant or just plain lazy to care.

In the case of those who has mother, mother in law or grandmothers to take care of the baby, they would adapt the these old traditional way, would be difficult for them to follow. Often this would create clash of interest which in turn leads to argument and disagreement. They are more comfortable with the old ways and would complaint that modern ways are too fancy and difficult to cope up.

We all want the best for our children, thus I would advise we should bear in mind that we are moving forward to create a better future and not to be afraid to change because our children is living in the future that we are creating now.

Lulu's weekend rendezvous

2010-06-27T09:44:00.000-07:00

It was a great weekend for me and Lulu. Her daddy came down to KL and we went window shopping at Sunway Pyramid.

So before heading off to Sunway Pyramid, we stop by at FIL shop and had breakfast.

Me and Lulu - she just woke up hence the sour face

At her Tata&Patima shop

I was very excited, its not eveyday we get the chance to go out and spend time together, so it was fun!

Lulu and her dada at Rainforest Pub

After doing some shopping, we went to Rainforest pub for a drink. As usual hubby ordered his cold chilled beer and I had sprite and a mocktail. I also ordered dessert pancake with ice cream yummy!

I like this photo - she look so funny with her eyes wide open like that, when she saw the flash, she did that eye thing and "snap"..big eyes!

My sweethearts

changing her diaper - this one she poopoed while were drinking at the rainforest. so lazy to go to babies rest room, i just changed her there..lucky her poo is odourless

One thing i like about this shopping mall is they have babies rest room for mommy who wants to nurse or change diaper.

Here are some of the toys we bought for.

Playgym mat

notice the CD?..hehehe

she loves this one

"Logan the Lion"

hahaha hubby bought teether

Some of her other toys - blue teddy bought by her Tata&Patima, blue penguin her Tata and the mickey mouse toy from her momma

Hubby went back Lumut today, we miss him already...

Lulu and her Cloth Diaper

2010-06-25T18:13:00.000-07:00

Yes! I did it..it cost me a bomb, but and I'm happy :). Well I bought these few Cd's from few online shopping, and was crazy about CD for awhile. I'm new to this CD thing so its kinda confusing for me at first.

So I went through so many online shopping that sells CD, and I feel this one gives a clear information about it. There are so many terms with each having almost the same usage, but why so many?..then only i realize cloth has evovle since the traditional kain lampin we used to the modern pocket cloth diaper. Basically..

Traditional Kain Lampin -> Prefold Diaper -> Cloth Diaper Fitted -> Pocket Cloth Diaper (Latest)

Anyway, after I got all my CDs, hehehe.I tried it on lulu, and wow she look very comfortable. So here's some photos, not clear because i use my cheapo handphone camera.

Bye bye disposable diaper and lampin

and

Hello!!!

All these I bough from Nice Cloth Diaper promotion buy 4 Baby Cheek (8 insert) free 4 NCD Minky (free 8 insert) - RM300 only (save RM380) and it free shipping nationwide. They also have other interesting product, why don't check it out :)

This one bought from BambooLite both at RM100, thanks to Michelle she gave me discount I save RM10.

BambooLite only use bamboo material which is 100% natural fibre, very soft and comfortable.

Free Wet Bag from Nice Cloth Diaper, any purchase made you get 1 free wet bag, if you buy above RM150 you get another 1 free wet bag.

BambooLite Cd

Nice Cloth Diaper - NCD Minky - This one my favourite

Nice Cloth Diaper - Baby Cheek

BambooLite

I also bought another 2 CD from Little Precious Garden for RM60.00, but quality is not very good.

I'm quite happy with my stash, might buy a few more with cute patterns, maybe next month lah, my pocket koyak already.

along the 7 weeks becoming a mother

2010-06-03T09:42:00.000-07:00

phew..what a day, yes its been almost 7 weeks now since i gave birth to my precious little princess Louanna. This 2 months seems like a 3 days journey, time flies so fast and next week i'll back to work..eiii so malasssss.

I really enjoyed being with Lulu (her nickname), and she teaches me a lot in being mom. she never failed to suprised me, there's always something new to learn and understand about this little person. I spent time a lot doing some research on the net, just to get more information about babies well being and their nature.

I went through some hurdles but manage to get through quite well :).

1st : Breastfeeding

This was a tougher than I tought. At times i wanted to quit, but knowing that b/feeding is good for the baby's health I was not willing to give up so easy. I tried be positive and read a lot of testimonials. After the 4th day, i was getting the hang of it already. Baby is happy and im happy :)

2nd : Night owls: I must say it's very tiring having to wake up middle of the night with my husband away, I had to do this alone (sakit2 lagi tu). This was expected. I only manage to get 2-3 hours sleep. Slowly I tried to change her sleep pattern to have longer sleep at night . Somewhere around the 4th week, I managed to get sleep at night more, and only naps at day time. Now she sleeps at 10 - 10.30pm she'll wake up once for nursing about 4am and back to sleep till 8am.

3rd : Pumping milk for storage: I was worried that I would not be able to pump more milk for Lulu when I start working only manage to pump 2 ounce, but deligently I keep pumping every now and then, and it seems that it's geeting better 4 to 5 ounce

4th: She getting her shots: I did'nt know that babies can get fever after a shots. The day she got her shot she was cranky because of the pain. I keep taking her tempreture every 2 hours to check if she's having fever or not, yet we gave her the medicine doctor gave, that night I let her sleep with me, thank god she sleeps well and no fever.

tomorow is her 1st long journey to Lumut, Perak to see her daddy, i'm quite excited and at the same time worried that it might not be comfortable for her. harap2 everything will go on well. now packing her things, since its a 1st time for me, i don't know if the things i packed for her is sufficient or not, mcm mo bawa semua. anyways so far so good, there are sop many things ahead for me to experience, nevertheless its a joy for me and i'm not complaining

She's finally here..

2010-05-11T21:51:00.000-07:00

Quotes - "Opportunity"

2010-04-12T19:41:00.000-07:00

I love quotes it can be about anything. It's very motivating and keeps you on ground and helps you to see things in different aspect of life. I came across this write ups on the net, and thought of sharing some of the quotes mentioned by the writer. It's about creating your own opportunity in life. he also points some very positive fro me to think about.

Albert Einstein once said: "In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity".

Henry Ford once said: "One who fears failure limits his activities"

Henry Hoskins who said: Enthusiasm finds the opportunities, and energy makes the most of them."

Hugh Allen who said: "Jumping at several small opportunities may get us there more quickly than waiting for one big one to come along".

Life sometimes throws at us unexpected challenges that we find it difficult to foresee and take steps to prevent or avoid it all together. Nevertheless these unexpected turn of events offers us new opportunities that we would never have realized unless we face these challenges objectively and stoically.

Lumut..me at 32 weeks preggy

2010-04-12T04:13:00.000-07:00

Sunset

posing at Marina Island

Dinner time

some of the babies things i bought :)

2010-04-09T07:02:00.000-07:00

pregnancy effect..hehehe

2010-04-09T06:23:00.000-07:00

swollen feet (this was taken whne i was 29 weeks)

swollen feet, taken today at 37 weeks 5 days

Stretch mark under my belly, lucky not so many

i gained weight about 15kg ++

my belly at 36 weeks

belly at 37y weeks

sorry for the blurry picture, use my handphone to take these photo for remembrance..hehehehe..

anytime now..phew..excited & nervous

2010-04-08T04:27:00.000-07:00

Today i went for my medical check up again..i gained 100 gram. i guess the weight gain slows down already..bagus lah..dunno how get rid all the lemaks2 after givinbg birth. Check was ok..nothing out of the ordinary, except for the waiting...gila punya lambat pula today. Kunun bangun paghi awal2, supaya sampai awal, around 7am i left my house. drive punya drive i think pass 1km sudah, sia teringat my hospital card tertinggal di bilik.."CITT!!!!"..terpaksa buat u-turn ambi the card..so that cost me abut 15 minutes. haiyahhhh...end up stuck in a jam. ngam2 lkagi ada kereta rusak sana LDP...aduiii punyalah girigitan sia. so finally i reach Univeristi hospital at about 8.20am. punya ramai org..took my number.."1065"..current no "1029"...duhhh..!!! punya jauh.

well after finish my check up, had to go back to office (actually i took the whole day off) since there's no staff around, tought of doing some updates for couple of hours.

actually i had an interview as well today. it's a german based company, very well establish..(EPG 13% owoo), the pay also good, benefit also good..and the interview went on smnoothly and it was good one..not suprise they might hire me. yeah they do know i'm pregnant, but they willing to wait for 2 months if they hire me la. so wait for the verdict next week.

yeeha..weekend is comeing soon..so fasttt!!..my next check upo is next week thursday..i would be 39 weeks alreadyyy..hehehehehe

happy days

2010-04-07T04:59:00.000-07:00

19 days to go..makin dekat makin lambat pula masa berjalan. Counting the days..tomorrow is my check up, last week my weight was 63.2kg...wonder if i gained any more kilos.

Last Saturday took my CUTE exam, and i passed!!! yay!!..last minuute study..lol..it was easy breezy.
I just bought my new laptop last sunday..yeah finally have my own laptop. went to Pj Digital Mall, selling computers stuff and handphone, much like Low yat plaza.

Now that i have this laptop i can chat online and video conferencing with my family in KK and also hubby in perak..yeay!!

Mom is coming donw to KL on 6th May, yeah cannot wait oh.

32 days to go..

2010-03-24T20:48:00.000-07:00

I'm counting the days..it might be right on the dot or maybe delayed. Gosh..the waiting game is mind boggling. Each and every mother went through different experience, but knowing what's going to happen when the moment comes would help a lot (especially first timer). I have been doing some reading on the laboring process. Basically the process of labor and birth is divided into three stages:

The first stage begins with the onset of contractions that cause progressive changes in your cervix and ends when your cervix is fully dilated. This stage is divided into two phases: early (or latent) and active labor.
During early labor, your cervix gradually effaces (thins out) and dilates (opens).
During active labor, your cervix begins to dilate more rapidly and contractions are longer, stronger, and closer together. People often refer to the last part of active labor as "transition."

The second stage of labor begins once you're fully dilated and ends with the birth of your baby. This is sometimes referred to as the "pushing" stage.

The third and final stage begins right after the birth of your baby and ends with the separation and subsequent delivery of the placenta.

Every pregnancy is different, and there's wide variation in the length of labor. For first-time moms who are at least 37 weeks along, labor often takes between ten and 20 hours. For some women, though, it lasts much longer, while for others it's over much sooner. Labor generally progresses more quickly for women who've already given birth vaginally.

I have also ask other mothers about their experience and no two story are the same, some had preterm, some chooce to have c-section, some have to do c-section due to complication , others were delayed and had to induce..etc.

I've prepared my bags for for me and the baby, i'm still thinking whether to take leave early or wait until I'm due..

My family and friends all had their wish date. Some wants me to have it same date as their birthday, some say the way my belly bulging I might have it early, some says that Friday 23 is a good date, or 1st May a good number. Well guess that its normal, I really don't care....what ever date it is..I will accept whatever the date that its meant to be the important thing is the baby is healthy.

Exam coming soon

2010-03-16T20:19:00.000-07:00

My upline Mr Ban just called me.." Your CUTE exam will be on 3rd April..issit ok?".."yeah ok no problem". So I have about 2 weeks to do revision. (By the way CUTE means Computerised Unit Trust Exam).

Yeap I would be going into my 37th week. Hopefully everything will go on smoothly.

Weekend at Lumut

2010-03-16T18:59:00.000-07:00

This trip was unexpected one. My hubby called and told me his brother Edward is planning a trip to Lumut (where my hubby is working now) with his family. So ask me if wanna to tumpang/join them..bah apa lagi i grab every chance i can get just to see my hubby.

Anyway Edward fetch me at about 8.40pm and off we go to Lumut. the girls all excited, they asking the same question over and over again "Where we going?"..."Where is Benard chitapa(means small uncle in Tamil)??".

At about 12.30am, we reached Lumut and we were hungry, so we decided to stop at the McDonald drive thru and tapau ( as usual i ordered my fav double cheese burger).

We check in to our apartment had our supper and went to sleep. The whether is sooooooo panas. I didn't get any good sleep and with my big belly its very hard to make myself comfortable.

During these weekend rendovous in Lumut and Pangkor, the children had good time especially playing at the beach in Teluk Batik. We also went to Pulau Pangkor courtesy of Marina Island boat, where my hubby work in. We were entertain by Mr James, and took us around the Pangkor small town. I didn't bring my camera (camera buruk so malas mo bawa). I bought some Tulang Ikan Kurau, Belacan and Petai for MIL.

How time flies when u had good times. Sunday after breakfast we went back. Left at about 11am and reach home at 2.30pm. Would be coming back again soon to Lumut with my in laws.

Jaya Jusco is on SALE..Its time for Shopping!!!!

2010-03-15T18:53:00.000-07:00

Yeap..its SALE season yippee! School holiday started so does the SALE. After coming back from Lumut last Sunday, reached home at 2.30pm. I rest fro awhile, I was thinking about my baby's things and preparation. Cannot tahan already, I looked at my watch it's 4.00pm. I don't feel sleepy or tired..well the excitement i have beats the tiredness i felt..lol

So apalagi, i asked my MIL "amma, what u doing later?".."nothing..why?".."you tired or not?..wanna go Jaya Jusco shopping for baby things ah?".."come laa, where?" (aik tanya lagi).."Jaya Jusco Mid Valley got sale..i connot wait next weekend to go ..i wanna go today"...with my happy smilling face..MIl pun got excited asking me if i made any list what to buy. So showed her my lists. "wahh..so nice ah u made these already"..

I bring along my husband niece as well Nathan. since he's around for for the school holiday. Half way to mid valley i decided to go to Sunway Pyramid Jaya Jusco , cannot bear the jam. Hujan pulak tu..it rained so heavy for a like an hour.

At 5.30pm thank god when we reach pyramid, it didn't took me long to find parking..nagm2 dekat entrance to shopping mall..pheww.

Masuk saja dalam shopping mall, ngam2 lagi entrance to the Jaya Juso and ngam2 juga children and babies department. I cannot content my excitement when i see all the babies things..although sudah byk kali tinguk (window shopping previously)..but that day i was so happy because i got buy it..waahh sioknyaaa!

So apalgi me and MIL looking around and shopping la..and my niece tagging along. Bought all the normal things la..shampoo, soap, loting, baby oil, small towels, towels, wet wiper, mosquito net, powder and babies cloth (ni yg paling cute). I tried not to over buy the baby cloths because baby tedn to grow very fast so beli byk2 no point also. Tapi tu tangan pandai gatal2 juga mo bili..

About 8pm we went and have a drink.. then pulaaaanngg. Sampai rumah ja, i unwrapped alll the things. Doing my checklist again both for the baby an for the mother to be (me)..masih ada barang belum beli. So the next day after work i went straight to Jaya Jusco Midvalley (since its very near to my office and its school holiday so the jam not that bad)....apalagi shopping again..weee. Sampailah pukul 9pm hehehehe.

there still few other things to buy..baby sling, car seat, cloth diaper, mattress..but all these can wait la. I'm in my 34 weeks now, notice there's a some slight stretch mark under my belly..and the baby still actively moving. I've decied a name already for the baby and hubby likes it too. nanti after delivery sia announce la baru surprise sikit.

My next step ..UTC!!

2010-03-07T22:54:00.000-08:00

I'm sure some of you will be wondering "What is UTC???". It's a abbreviation for Unit Trust Consultant. yes..I'm on my way to become A UTC. I just attended the course last Saturday, and will be having my exam some time this month or early next month. If I pass I'm officially a UTC for Public Mutual Berhad.. yeah!! (it's one of my 2010 resolution)

It's just another steps that I decided to do in making myself more attentive and savvy about investment, and being an agent does give the advantages. Investment is a a very good way to achieve financial freedom.

I'm more familiar about the financial term use in investment e.i NAV, KLSI, liquidity, bonds, money market, dividend, distribution, etc... I must say it's very interesting. At the same time it's a part time thing for me to do my own business and with God's will and of course with my hard work, hopefully become full time . Slowly but surely.

Well I'm still very new to this, and hopefully continue to be active . For those who interested to become an agent feel free to email me (antgelnich@yahoo.com) and would be glad to link and help you. Together we achieve our goal!

Here's some of the reason Why Unit Trust Consultant?

1) Great opportunity to earn unlimited income

The local unit trust industry is a multi-billion ringgit industry with huge opportunities in both the cash
and EPF markets

- For the cash market, the Bank Negara's Report for
June 2009 shows individual's conventional and
Islamic demand deposits and savings deposits stood
at more than RM349 billion. While our national
savings rate continues to remain high at 37 percent
(Source: The Association Of Banks In Malaysia).

- According to EPF 2008 Report, there were over
5.7 million of active EPF members as at end of year
2008.
You determine your own pay cheque. Capitalise on the huge untapped market potential, the sky is the limit for your earning potential!
You will be your own boss. ( i love the most )

- You have the freedom to build your own team and
develop your own business strategies.

- You have the freedom to earn as much as you want,
there is no limit.

2) Flexible working hours
You are not tied to a 9-to-5 job and have the privilege of dictating your own working hours to suit your needs.( this one also i like :) )

Medical Check up

2010-03-04T16:53:00.001-08:00

It's the day I've been waiting for it's my monthly antenatal medical check up :)). Partly because they going to do an ultrasound and its been 3 months since I had the ultrasound.

My appoinment is at 9am, but having to go through the traffic jam in the morning and queeing up at the hospital, i had to leave early at 7.30am. This time i decided to go alone (bukan susah bah, parking ambi numbur tunggu turn la). It's a norm any hospital, you have to wait bukan 30mins or 1 hours..but 3 hours. There's no difference between private hospital or government hospital its the same.

So I reach the hospital at 8.20am, took my number and it's 1050, the current number is 1025...not bad oklah. this time i took a book with me just to passed the time.

Tunggu punya tunggu, about 11.14am they called my name. This was the results during the check up :

Blood Test : Normal
Urine test : Normal
Pap Smear : Normal
Glucose : Good - not diabetic
Weight : 61.2kg ( One month ago I was 58.5kg)
Baby Weight : 2.1kg
Baby Growth : Normal

Some other check up perform by the doctor; listening to the baby's heart beat (normal), measure my big belly, check blood pressure..all is good.

So left the hospital with a happy smile and glad that everything is ok :), my next check up will be on the 1st April 2010.

Baby Checklist

2010-02-24T01:11:00.000-08:00

I have been doing windows shopping online ( a lot!) and making a list of things to buy..woahh so many laaa, pocket pun koyak ohh.

Plan to start my shopping next month at Jaya Jusco Mid Valley, they have a lot of choices there, probably might buy one baby bodysuit (shhhh..).

I have list down some of item yang misti dibeli especially things to bring to the hospital. Some will have to wait until the baby is 1 or 2 months older (such as Cloth Diaper).

As the due date getting nearer, I have been reading about delivery a lot just to equip myself on what's gonna happen during labor...takut pun ada, nervous pun ada..hope and pray that things will go on smoothly. Hubby will be in Pangkor so I guess my father in law might have to sent me to hospital. Thought of taking leave 2-3 days early from the due date, don't wanna have the labor while I'm driving or in the office...(yaaii..)

My feet swelling a bit especially on hot day, so I tend to sleep early relaxing my feet and messaging. With my big belly I cannot bend, wash my feet or trim my toe nails. Even to bend down and lift or pick something I will think twice about it.

Baby tend to kick my ribs and bladder ..adoi! I've been doing the kick counts, and so far so good, baby kicking and moving very active.

I just notice I've been taking picture (with my hp) of my belly from early stage, at 12W, 16W, 20W, 27W, 29w, 30w and 31W. You can actually see how my perut become buncit gradually.

Importants of breast-feeding

2010-02-22T00:08:00.000-08:00

The other day went for medical check up, and so happens there's a seminar about breast feeding so took the chance to attend (free mahh).
I now know the benefits of breast feeding for your baby. It is recommended to breastfeed for at least 6 months up to 2 years old. But i guess i would opt for 6 month. Below are some of the information I found in the net about breastfeeding.

Human breast milk is tailor made for a baby as it contains just the right amount of protein, carbohydrates, minerals and vitamins to sustain your growing baby.

Your milk is rich in every foodstuff that your baby needs. Apart from nutritional worth, breastfeeding makes sound sense because;-

Breast-fed babies are less prone to illness than bottle-fed babies. There are fewer cases of gastroenteristis, chest infection, and measles and this is directly attributable to the antibodies that the baby receives.
Human breast milk is more easily and quickly digested than cow’s milk.

Breast-fed babies don’t get contispated; the stools that babies do pass are always soft and comparatively odourless, and don’t contain the bacteria which generally cause ammonia dermatitis, so your baby is less prone to nappy rash.

Breast-fed babies rarely become over-weight. Each baby has its own appetite and metabolic rate- so do not worry if your baby is fatter or thinner than your neighbour’s.

Breast-feeding is the most convenient method.

Breast-fed babies have less wind and sleep longer.

Breast-feeding is good for your figure. During breast-feeding a hormone called oxytocin is released and this encourages the uterus to return to its normal size, stimulating the milk production. Your pelvis and waistline returns to normal more quickly!

Breast-feeding may provide some protection against breast cancer!!

Breast-feeding helps you bond with your baby

What is the ideal diet for a breastfeeding woman?
It is important that mothers who are breast-feeding have sufficient quantity of the varied, balanced and natural food. Good nutrition helps a mother maintain her health. As long as you are eating a healthy, nutritious diet, neither you nor your baby are likely to fall short of any vitamins or minerals.

You can also continue to take your prenatal DHA and vitamins after birth, which many obstetricians now recommend, then you and your baby are in even better shape!

Just around the corner

2010-02-16T17:35:00.000-08:00

Your Pregnancy: Week 31

You've just entered the single-digit countdown (only nine more weeks to go!). Make a list of what you'd like to do in these final weeks: See the new Oscar-worthy movie, hear your favorite local band, have lunch with your BFF, go on a romantic date with your partner. Whatever it is, do it soon because baby is right around the corner!

:)

2010-02-11T19:22:00.000-08:00

Week 30

2010-02-11T18:58:00.000-08:00

Ten fingers, Ten toes
She's laughter and teardrops
So small and brand new
And amazingly angelic
She's sent to bless you
She's one special Baby
The best of life's treasure
And will grant and bless you
Many hours of great pleasure.
Author Unknown

It's 30th week she's moving, wriggling and kicking a lot. How I enjoyed every movement she made. It may cause me pain but having to feel her is just a blessing. Just another 10 weeks, I'll be cradling and singing to her. The other went window shopping with colleague in a baby stores, I almost cried when I saw the baby suit. It's just so adorable!!!

Week 30 How Big is the Baby at 30 Weeks Pregnant?
By 30 weeks pregnant, your baby weighs 2.9 pounds and is just about 15.7 inches long!

Your Baby's Growth and Development
Your baby is continuing to grow and develop at 30 weeks, filling out your uterus more and more every day. You have probably noticed an arm or leg moving across your belly at one time or another. Many parents have a lot of fun playing "guess the body part" as their unborn baby moves inside the mom's belly. This game is even more interesting as your pregnancy continues week by week. A hard round lump is likely either the head or your baby's bottom, whereas a longer flat surface may be your baby's back. Your healthcare provider may be able to help you identify your baby's bumps and lumps at your next prenatal visit.

The volume of amniotic fluid in your belly will slowly start to decrease as your baby starts to take up more and more space.

Your Growth and Development
Your uterus is now about 4 inches above your belly button at pregnancy week 30. You are now in the home stretch of pregnancy, and quickly running out of room to expand!

Is soya bean good for pregnancy??

2010-01-27T22:20:00.000-08:00

Just the other day me and my friend bought fresh made tau foo fah (soya beans). I do not really take soya beans during my pregnancy only now and then. I heard to some people it was known to be very good for the baby, it was believe that it will make your baby to have fairer skin and better complexion. On the other hand I also heard that it's not good to consumed during pregnancy. So I started to browse and found this :

Soya beans linked to developmental damage
Pregnant women who eat a diet high in soya beans may increase the risk of long-term developmental damage in their children, researchers have found.

Soya beans contain compounds called phytoestrogens or isoflavones, that have been found to mimic the effects of the female sex hormone oestrogen.

you can read the rest of the article here

Another article i found was this :

Soya bean, soy products are not good for pregnant women

The food to avoid when pregnant is soy products. Yet, many pregnant moms go out of their way to consume more soya bean drink, eat soya bean cakes and totally adore soy products because they were told that soy will give their babies fair and beautiful complexion.

As with everything, one shouldn’t consume too much of anything. Therefore, soya bean is not good for pregnant mothers if they consume too much. If you are expecting a baby boy, you may even work against his favour. You may bring up a boy with a lot of female features

Another one i found was posted :

SOY During Pregnancy
As just one example, when mothers who eat an entirely vegetarian diet during pregnancy have boys, those children have a fivefold greater risk of developing hypospadias, a birth defect of the penis. In hypospadias, the opening of the penis is found on the underside of the penis rather than at the tip, requiring corrective surgery -- untreated, it can interfere with urination and sexual function.

The birth defect is most likely due to the greater exposure vegetarians have to phytoestrogens, the hormone-like compounds found in soy. For the exact same reason, vegetarians with a soy-rich diet during pregnancy expose their female offspring to a higher risk of breast cancer later in life.

No matter what you may have heard, soy is not a health food. There is a 70 billion dollar industry that funds many studies attempting to show that soy has benefits so that you will consume it. Their goal is to sell more domestic soy. Their goal is NOT your health. Pregnant women in particular should avoid soy completely, with the exception of fermented soy products which have a greatly lowered phytoestrogen content.

...What do you think??

Coming towards week 28

2010-01-27T17:42:00.000-08:00

It's almost 7 months now, getting very excited..so as the little bundle. She's been kicking and moving non-stop. Keep me wondering how she doing in there, how would she look like.

Being at this stage I starting to have this constant backache and going to the toilet very often. One thing i like though is eating hehehe..always hungry.
I went browsing through some website, this is what happen at week 28

How your baby's growing:

By this week, your baby weighs two and a quarter pounds (like a Chinese cabbage - mine more like watermelon) and measures 14.8 inches from the top of her head to her heels. She can blink her eyes, which now sport lashes . With her eyesight developing, she may be able to see the light that filters in through your womb. She's also developing billions of neurons in her brain and adding more body fat in preparation for life in the outside world.

How your life's changing:

Around this time, some women feel an unpleasant "creepy-crawly" sensation in their lower legs and an irresistible urge to move them while trying to relax or sleep (I'm going through that now..very uncomfortable!!). If this sensation is at least temporarily relieved when you move, you may have what's known as restless legs syndrome (RLS). No one knows for sure what causes RLS, but it's relatively common among expectant mothers. ( So yang jadi mangsa to massage is my hubby heheheheh)

Having this big belly, it's becoming very difficult to lie down and sleep. Now I end up with 5 pillows to make my self comfortable. I took all my hubby's pillow which only leave one for him hehehheheh.

Last Sunday follow my hubby to Bangsar Shopping Mall to meet some friend. I took the chance to escape to do some window shopping for the baby's arrival. Went to this store for mum and babies they're all so cuteeeeeee!..baby's pram, booties, mittens, diapers they're just so tempting..tapi the price tag also very the mahal one. Jaya Jusco offer much more affordable price and they're just as good.

Now and then my calender, internet and bookstore has been my favorite companion and place to go. Everyday would look at the calender counting the days, surfing and broswing the internet for some information about babies. Went to the bookstore Times yesterday looking for a book about babies, got to get one book to equip myself when she arrive. I saw this book from Mariam Stoppard. Before I was pregnant I bought her "Conception, Pregnancy and Birth" edition and found it very useful, next book would be "Complete Baby and Childcare", planning to buy it today.

My next check- up would be on 4th February, I wonder how much weight I've gain so far. Since hubby is busy, my mum in law will accompany me, even she is excited. I wish my mom is here to accompany as well.

Till then ...later!

Me?.. A Public Mutual Agent..why not?

2010-01-20T23:06:00.000-08:00

So to make my resolutions a successful one, I start off by looking at becoming an agent for Public Mutual. You may ask me Public Mutual???..why?? Well it all started when I meet this colleague of mine. She very well verse in the investment thing, and she talk to me a lot about it how good it is to invest your money rather than keeping it in saving account.

The more I know about this investment thing the more interested I am. And hence I did some research on all the investment tools that available, and to my surprise, investment is slowly becoming a trend for people to be more financial wise in handling their finance and secure a better future.

I start of my investment portfolio with ASB, and slowly learning more about Unit Trust. As I learn and got to now more about it, I finally decide to take this opportunity and pursue this as a tool for me to earn extra income as part time. Planning to get my licensing by March this year. Hope this would be the starting point for my career, with the support from loving husband, I believe all things are possible with sheer mind and determination.

To know more about Unit Trust click here

Window shopping

2010-01-20T22:42:00.000-08:00

Like any other day, it's just an ordinary day. today went lunch at Penang Village had Kuew Tiaw Soup..sodappppp!!

My colleague says "Later we stop by at this shop, I wanna buy clothes for the coming Chinese New Year". yes! Window shopping excites me.

If only I had the extra $$ , would have spent few hundreds on these dress and blouse. Gosh!!!..the temptation is so strong. So to make myself satisfy, went I try it on. Lucky it was not as nice as how I imagine (kasi senang hati :P mah)

My colleague bought a long skirt (I would have bought the same if I were 10 kg lighter) another excuse not to spent on things I do not need.

Hope after the delivery I could shed all this pounds and back to my original weight and size. I have so many clothes I can't wear..miss my jeans and my baby Tees. I guess I would need some strict diet and exercise after this. While waiting for that moment, I'm enjoying eating and eat whatever food I want..weepee!!

daily routine ... looking at the calender

2010-01-20T17:16:00.000-08:00

It's almost end of January, I just can't wait for the moment to come. I am very excited yet quite scared about it at the same time. I'm already in 6th months going to 7th very soon. I feel there's a long way to go. I have been looking at the calender everyday counting the days and making notes.

I've also been checking out baby things but did not buy anything yet, they said it's not good to buy any baby's things before the arrival. So I had to just admire it and wishing that I could bring some home. I even thought of "curi-curi" buying and hide it hehehhehe.

She's been kicking very actively nowadays and it never cease to make me smile. Ever since I've felt her movement, she had been my companion all day long. I enjoyed her present every minute, even when I'm sleeping. She takes of my misery, sadness and stress altogether.

I've also been searching for a name for her, and it's not as easy as I thought. All the names that I like has been taken. However I have a few list of names already. One I just found yesterday which the meaning and the sound of the name captures me immediately. It's beautiful and unique. I search for a name that would mean "Gift from God" - because it's a truly a blessing for me and my husband. I went through some tough moments. I keep praying and asking God to make me strong mentally and emotionally. I never stop praying to Him and continuously praying for his grace, blessing and forgiveness for all the bad things I have done. Indeed He is merciful and He gave a gift that complete me wholeheartedly.

Preparing the checklist, I compile from the net, it's very helpful. Going through the checklist there's a lot of things need to prepare means a lot of $$ to spent. Some things we don't have buy my bro in law has twins baby girl so some things like cribs and baby's clothes is already waiting for the her. I now know why some mother will go over board buying all this babies cloths and things, there just so cute!!!!!

Frustrating

2010-01-16T17:25:00.001-08:00

There are times when things happen just to annoy you. It ruins your whole day. For the next 24 hours you be thinking and pondering about it over and over again. I don't understand why some people make decision for you without thinking what and how feel about it. It's just unacceptable, especially when t0 comes to financial issues. Even after knowing how you feel, still they do it they said it’s for the greater of good for everybody. Trying to justify the reason for some thing that you don't agree on which matters to you the most are very unacceptable. If you can't afford it then don't pretend that you can or have something to show off, it's a denial and you'll be living in that life forever not knowing how and when to change.

ya i know just letting out my frustration - I don't intend bombarded to any particular person out there..it's just me..it's just any another day..the good times and bad times

Movie - Blind Side

2010-01-12T18:03:00.000-08:00

Last night I was alone, hubby was working late. I don't feel like reading so flip through all the DVD's my hubby bought last Sunday and decided to watch "Blind Side". I choose this DVD thinking it might be a good one since it's based on real true event. I love watching such movies; a movie like this often the one who will move the audience in such that you will appreciate life more.

This movie for instance is a really good movie, with Sandra Bullock it makes the movie more interesting. She's an amzing actress and very a beautiful women. I like the character she played - Leigh Anne. This is movie is about Micheal Oher the American football offensive tackle for the Baltimore Ravens of the National Football League with the help from Leigh Anne became one of the most successfull sportman in States. It tells how he went through a very rough and sad life from being a nobody to become somebody. It's best for you to watched the movie yourself rather than me elaborating it here, but I must say it's very good movie, even made me cry. (boo hoo...). You won't regret.

Sound of Music - My Favourite Things

2010-01-07T04:10:00.000-08:00

Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens
Bright copper kettles and warm woolen mittens
Brown paper packages tied up with strings
These are a few of my favorite things

Cream colored ponies and crisp apple streudels
Doorbells and sleigh bells and schnitzel with noodles
Wild geese that fly with the moon on their wings
These are a few of my favorite things
Girls in white dresses with blue satin sashes

Snowflakes that stay on my nose and eyelashes
Silver white winters that melt into springs
These are a few of my favorite things

When the dog bites
When the bee stings
When I'm feeling sad
I simply remember my favorite things
And then I don't feel so bad

The starting of the year 2010....

2010-01-03T22:19:00.000-08:00

It's going to be a very busy month for me at work, tender just came in and there's tons of things to do and so little time. Counting the days till the due date tender submission means the date for the coming Chinese New Year is getting nearer as well..which is also means more holidays !!!..aarrgghhh!!!..and soon it will be March, need to do preparation before the "arrival"..and in between these days few things had to be arrange. why does time has to fly so fast? Busy is good right?..no?...few things to do this month and also next month

1) Review my housing loan
2) Review my car loan
3) Review my investment portfolio
4) Review my other loans...etc

(banyak nya hutang)

basically its all financial issues..need to start now before April..

It would be a good year for us (me and hubby ;) ), hope and pray that with god willing everything will go on as plan.

HAppy New Year 2010!

2009-12-30T17:33:00.000-08:00

Wow!..it's the last day of the year 2009, how time flies and yet hardly feel anything happened for past 1 year. 2009 has been an experience for me, happy and sad moments. Becoming a year older and learning to be more appreciate to life and not to take it for granted.

I guess i wrote a blog about my 2009 resolution a year ago, guess some did happened :). Well for this coming 2010 my New Year resolution would be..treng teng-teng:

1) Put more saving and investment
2) Become a loving mother :)
3) Start excising after stopping for like 5 years??..that's very long
4) To settle my credit card..no more credit card...
5) Start paying my education loan..i last made payment was 3 years ago..erkkk!!

well i guess that's about it. nothing much, well probably be more financially practical. more commitment means more responsible...

Wishing everybody a Happy New Year 2010!!! woopee!

chores not done yet..

2009-12-28T17:30:00.000-08:00

Touching down in LCCT Kuala Lumpur on 27th Dec at 9pm my mind starts to run again thinking about all the chores and work to be done both at home and office. It's good to see my hubby again, miss his smile and teasing.

I was expecting the room to be in total mess as always when I'm not around. When I was in KK I keep reminding him to keep the room clean and he keep teasing saying that the room is waiting for me to be clean. But I was quite surprised to see the room keep very tidy, he even change the bedsheets :), except for the piles of laundry looming like a volcano..waahhoooooo!!! I would only be able to start that that in weekend, even the weather was very moody - drizzling and raining. I have not unpack yet, to tired and exhausted, lucky the weekend is coming soon need to revive and welcome the new year 2010!

Whoa Nelly Christmas already?

2009-12-25T17:43:00.000-08:00

It's already been 3 months since I last updated my blog, how time flies. yes and now it's Christmas! It's been both happy and sad Christmas moment for me this year, being able to be with my family after so many years celebrating Christmas in KL, it's trully a joyful and wonderful experience for me and at the same time seeing Nani ( my grandma) for the last time before she leave to join my Pah (grandpa) at the other side, not being able to see anymore makes me miss her even more. I'm looking to a brighter new year ahead, hopes and dreams for a healty life and blessed day. Oh ya not to forget a new member in the family :) *wink * wink

Oh wel would like to wish all my beloved family and friends a Blessed Christmas and A happy new year 2010!! (wish i could join celebrating New year at kundasang..maybe next year)

Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri

2009-09-17T18:33:00.000-07:00

Wishing all my Muslim friends Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri

A long weekend

2009-09-13T17:55:00.000-07:00

Raya is just around the corner, it's going to be a very long weekend. The road is going to be empty as well weee. Everybody is busy going back to their kampung. I used to work over the public holidays in Kota tinggi Resort, it's the most busiest days of the year. You hardly get any rest for yourself. As early as 7am in the morning your day will not end till midnight.

After 3 years, me and my husband decided to leave the resort. Now in Kl my present job doesn't required me to work on public holiday. So I'm stuck here thinking what should I do during those holidays. I'm so used to working on public holidays. Other than visiting to friend's open house there's nothing much to do actually, other than making holes in your pocket. The pendemic H1N1 is not helping as well, my general well being does not allow me to go anywhere either. Gee looks like I'm stuck at home adding some kilos around my girth. Oh well!!

Change my template again

2009-09-13T00:20:00.001-07:00

Today i am in not mood to go out anywhere. a lazy sunday i must say. While waiting for my dear hubby to come back home from Johor Kota Tinggi, i decided to change my blog layout again. i tought i'll tried something very different. the network line is very bad, i kept being disconnected from the net..i feel like screaming..so frutrarted. after a long 2 hours i finally finish with my new blog layout. nothing fancy, just different in sort of way.

Enough with Facebook

2009-09-10T23:15:00.000-07:00

i decided to stop "facebooking" for awhile, just the sight of it makes my stomach churn. yes I'm serious i don't know why, but to see the facebook interface is enough to make me feel nauseating. I guess having too much to do with Facebook for a good 1 and half year is enough to make my life being off the socket.

From facebook, now i'm busy with my blog. There's nothing much to update actually, i'm still blurr about what to write about. gotta get something interesting to write. i finally change my layout though. After surfing through some of the free templates available on the net, I rest with this one cute and adorable (ahem-ahem if anyone notice yet ;) ...).

i actually had another blog which i kept it anonymous. whenever i feel unhappy (mostly) i'd only post something there. i dont know whether any of you read or seen that blog, i think i kept it "private mode"

oh well, will updates some soon, maybe pictures.. hmmm.. i think i know what to post..but i'll wait until the right time..will keep you posted!

I once was lost but now I'm found

2009-09-10T18:23:00.000-07:00

Ever wonder or thought about how your life turns around not the way you have expected?...is it better? worst?..but come to think of it, life goes on there's up and down, there's always better and worst, it's how you learn and go through with it.

I have a confession to make i used to be a person who is lack of spirituality. Going to church was only a routine thing for me, and very often my heart does not always stays in where it should be. I'm sure it happen to a lot of us.

It became worst when i started my study in KL. There was a moment where totally lost my faith in Him, I even feel that He does not care or love me at all. It was painful experience i had to go through and being reserve kind of person i don't share my problem to anybody even to my parents, because i don't want them to get worried over my problem that I created myself.

Well, I believed my family and friends love me so much they always pray for my well being. Sometimes when bad things happens, it happens for a reason, I guess it just a way God trying to reach back to us, and I believed it took a great impact in our life for us to stop and realizing that you have become an idiot all this time. I started to realize that I'm not living the life that I should be and because of that "incident" (which i wouldn't want to elaborate here, it would remain in my heart) it changed my life forever.

Well life does not end there, there will always be challenges, it's up to you to decide how you want things to end up to be. Now I constantly ask for God's guidance in everything I do, He will and always be there for you no matter what, all you need is to have faith in Him. God had showed me so many wonderful things in life. When you're in God's grace, you will never feel fear or worried for He is there to guide you.

Classic Song

2009-09-09T20:12:00.000-07:00

"Somewhere Over the Rainbow"

Somewhere over the rainbow
Way up high,
There's a land that I heard of
Once in a lullaby.

Somewhere over the rainbow
Skies are blue,
And the dreams that you dare to dream
Really do come true.

Someday I'll wish upon a star
And wake up where the clouds are far
Behind me.
Where troubles melt like lemon drops
Away above the chimney tops
That's where you'll find me.

Somewhere over the rainbow
Bluebirds fly.
Birds fly over the rainbow.
Why then, oh why can't I?

If happy little bluebirds fly
Beyond the rainbow
Why, oh why can't I?

Lucky Me

2009-08-20T06:23:00.000-07:00

"Lucky" - a word so deeply meaningful to me. i feel so blessed and thankful. though it takes a great effort and painful experience, but i feel blessed and lucky to be able to go through. i discover myself better and learn more about life (and still learning) i would call my self very lucky.

I have been listening to this song over and over again for the past 1 week. It's just a beautiful song. i just love every single word.

Lucky - Jason Mraz & Colbie Caillat

Do you hear me talking to you
Across the water across the deep blue ocean
Under the open sky oh my,
baby I'm tryingBoy,

I hear you in my dreams
Hear your whisper across the sea
Keep you with me in my heart
You make it easier when life gets hard

Lucky I'm in love with my best friend
Lucky to have been where I have been
Lucky to be coming home again
Oooohhhh oohhhh ohh ooohh ooohh oooh oooh

They don't know how long it takes
Waiting for a love like this
Every time we say goodbye
I wish we had one more kiss
I wait for you I promise you,
I will

Lucky I'm in love with my best friend
Lucky to have been where I have been
Lucky to be coming home again
Lucky we're in love every way
Lucky to have stayed where we have stayed
Lucky to be coming home someday

And so I'm sailing through the sea
To an island where we'll meet
You'll hear the music, feel the air
I put a flower in your hair
And though the breeze is through trees
Move so pretty you're all I see

As the world keep spinning round
You hold me right here right now
Lucky I'm in love with my best friend
Lucky to have been where I have been
Lucky to be coming home again

Lucky we're in love every way
Lucky to have stayed where we have stayed
Lucky to be coming home someday
Ooohh ooooh oooh oooh ooh ooh ooh ooh
Ooooh ooooh oooh oooh ooh ooh ooh ooh

life with a momentarily of happiness and sadness

2009-08-03T19:46:00.000-07:00

why is it that i only had the energy to update my blog when something bothering me?? i came to realize that some things had to be spoken out in order to releases yourself from constant breakdown that now and then manipulating the way you think and behave.

Aside from that i genuinely believed that we are responsible for own being, a momentarily happiness can rob you with a momentarily sadness. Just as being in a roller coaster it gives you a exhilarating and frightening feeling contemplating your emotional. We need to perceived and to acknowledge that life is indeed cruel but on the flip side it's a beautiful ride, only if you want to see that way. Humans are weak, they are full of negative thoughts and are very easily rob. we act according to our heart, needs and what we think is right.

Sadly very often we act or make decision towards the benefits for ourselves very seldom for others. When bad things happened to us we tend to blamed it on other rather than accepting it thus life goes on. In times we need to feel sad, otherwise we cannot recognize the meaning of happiness. That's the essence of life, we just have to acknowledge so as to maintain a stable mentality towards life we are living in, and having said that we need to put ourselves in God grace indefinitely.

feel old

2009-07-01T05:03:00.000-07:00

It's July and i can't believe how fast time flies, and for the past 6 months i realize so much things had happened and yet, i feel nothing had changed except the wrinkles on my face slowy appearing itself reminding me that i'm getting older...lol..well i dont have wrinkles yet (thank god for my genes ;P ) except the acne looming arond my face (how i hate that). My constant backache and paintful joint (driving a manual car and having to go through the jam every morning and everning doesn't help at all) telling me that i'm not taking care my health good enough. oh well i'll be 30 by end July..bye bye 29!

i felt love and i'm happy

2009-06-09T07:06:00.000-07:00

Ok, yeah so i decided to write about love. not that i'm good or anything, just figured i'd put some toughts about love on my blog. it's just a wonderful word, in fact the most powerful element in everybody's life. a four letter word can either make u the most happiest person in the world and at the same time the worst.

how do u express our love to someone? do u show it? or u say it? for me personally, showing someone you love is much more meaningful. when a person willing to scarifice for you despite the fact that it would cause him/her pain just to make you happy shows how much they love you. with that love, you ought to appreciate it by giving as much love as you can to the other person. of course love alone is not enough. i come to understand that trust, respect, honesty and understanding are very important order to cultivate the love that's just beginning.

I would say myself very lucky, to meet such a wonderful husband, we went through everything together. Of course it's not all beds and roses. It's not easy at all, but i guess our love is so strong neither of us wanted to give up, we both work on it. We tried to understand each other, and it takes great deals to go through. there are times when i almost give up, but seeing the sight of him and all the wonderful things he'd sacrifice for me, i guess it sounds stupid to what ever we fought about. As i'm getting to know him, i started to learn to be more patience and vice versa. We've only been together for like 5 years, so there still so much more to learn about life. the only different is we're doing it together. i guess God love me so much he gave me this man to take care of me.

there's a saying " When there's a love there's life" by Mahatma Gandhi. When you lost somebody you love so much it feels that your whole world just crashes down on you, forgetting everything around you. your life suddenly does not mean anything at all, you have no sense of purpose to live. the dreams and goals you'd shared died together with the person you love the most. recently my hubby to told me that a baby rabbit just died, and i cried (yeah i'm extremely emotional, my hubby learn how tolerate this already) i hate that when its happens. so i can't bear to think if it happens to someone that so dear to me.

All that aside, i'm very happy to love and to be loved.

Judge Me Not

2009-06-02T18:43:00.000-07:00

It's been awhile since i last updated my blog. Honestly i d0 not have any idea what to write, most of the things are very personal so it's best to keep it for myself. Nevertheless i have this urge to openly shout out to anybody who is reading my blog about something that has been bugging me for weeks. It has not been easy for me but it keep coming. i need to convey and let it out from my chest.

It really matters to me when it comes to people who passing judgment to someone who they don't even know. Who are we to judge? We are so quickly to "pass judgment" and sad to say it is a very serious issue and people do it so often accusing others without knowing what is actually happen. The bible also states we should not pass judgment-

Roman 2:1

No matter who you are, if you judge anyone, you have no excuse. When you judge another person, you condemn yourself, since you, the judge, do the same things.

Romans 14:1-12

14Welcome those who are weak in faith but not for the purpose of quarrellings over opinions. Some believe in eating anything, while the weak eat only vegetables. Those who eat must not despise those who abstain, and those who abstain must not pass judgment on those who eat; for God has welcomed them. Who are you to pass judgment on servants of another? It is before their own lord that they stand or fall. And they will be upheld, for the Lord is able to make them stand

²³⁴

I do admit of committing such crime (yes i would say its a crime) and it is one thing that i despise the most about myself. As human as we are, there are no excuses to make one feel less guilty about it. Just because others does not steer the way you do it doesn't mean you have the right to pass judgment about them.

I believe some are very judgmental and some are willing to accept everything. But judging someone positively or negatively we ought to think before we speak. Some are very potent to voice out their judgment and some prefers to keep it internal. Whatever it is the moment we are passing a judgment about someone it indirectly affect the way we behave towards them. How do you like others to judge you just by appearance and they don't even know you. Is it right? Just because she colored her hair red does not mean you had the right to judge her preference.

We, as humans, are judgmental. Be it on other people, places, objects or animals, or self inflicted. For some, being judge is not a big deal and does not concern them, but others being judge caused them fears and trepidation.

We are not perfect, but for once accept the weakness of others and don't judge just because they have different religions, ethics, skin color or anything; because the bible says when you judge others you are judging yourself

season

2009-06-02T07:22:00.000-07:00

For everything there is a season,
And a time for every matter under heaven:
A time to be born, and a time to die;
A time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal;
A time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
A time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to throw away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
A time to embrace, And a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to seek, and a time to lose;
A time to keep, and a time to throw away;
A time to tear, and a time to sew;
A time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate,
A time for war, and a time for peace.
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

be thankful

2009-05-09T00:27:00.000-07:00

sitting here alone and thinking about all the wonderful things happened around me, i can't help but to thank the Lord for his love for us. yet people always complaint about things and never be happy for what they have. Although good things does not always happen to us, but sometime it's not always about us. Everybody goes through good and bad times.

If we stop looking at the negative issues and be thankful for everything that's happening around, you will see that God indeed love us in a very beautiful and unique way. I find myself happy and so grateful that i started to see life in a very different way, I'm glad i did.

I used to complaint when things does not happen the way i want it to. I tend to question God, and being self pity to myself. I envied others who have everything; big cars, house, good education, more money, good career and everything that I do not possesed.

I do not know how it happen but I guess i realize that i need to change myself to be happy. So i started to thank Lord for eveything that i have, a husband, family, house, job, food, health, friends, handphones, computer, Tv, DVd, and the list go on. Secondly i started to thank God for the good things that happened to others; a friend who just bought a property, a friend who just become a new mother/father, business owner who manage to to earn profit, maid who able to work and earn money to support her family, bus driver who able to stay awake the whole journey from KL to Johor keeping passengers safe, the girl who was sitting next to me in the bus eargerly to see her family, a couple who sitting together having breakfast happily, my mom who is able to travel to jakarta and enjoying the trip, my father who is happily listening to his favourite song "koroncong", the boatman who is having a great time taking passengers to the island with his sound system on his boat blasting with hype music, my sister who is happily surfing the internet having 10,000 friends list in her myspace account, my brother who is getting on well in his new FOREX investment, a farmer who is working hard to make a living, a father who is proud of his daughter for being the best student of the year, friend who got married, the sun that is shining brightly, the wifi installed in this restaurant that i'm hanging out that keeps me busy on the net and to updating my blog.

So start counting all the blessing it may be yours it may be for others, it's all God's good work.

if only my car can fly..

2009-05-06T04:26:00.000-07:00

After a long holiday my mind was in lazy mode and the thought of going back to work was the last think i want to do. Well it was monday, getting up in the morning was a struggling. Need some fine tuning back to the old normal mode. This may be the hard part, but the worst is going through the ever famous traffic jam, can anything be sweeter than this. Oh well i got used to it already, going through this every morning, I kinda found my way driving around and only taking certain lanes and roads. It took me an hour for me to reach my office ( Subang to Hartamas), which you might say is good considering the number of traffic jam i have to go through.

The traffic jam is so unpredictable, sometimes the jam that I'm expecting, won't be there, the road will be empty, wondering where did all the cars came from and where have they gone? but don't be so excited you will be suprise it will be back again the very next day. Funny as it seems i tend to think that people just love be stuck in jam. It seems like they choose the day they like to spent time jamming..hahahahha.. of course that's a bit absurd.

Anyway on that particular Monday afternoon, it was the worst jam i ever been, well not the worst but it sure does on my top ten list worst jam ever. It's like madness, when these happens you will see a lot of unethical drivers who does not give a damn about everybody they cut ques, driving on the emergency lanes, 2 lanes will expand into 4 lanes and some so call "daredevil" driver will drive to a non entry roads. These drivers cause the already bad jam become even worst. How i wish my car could just fly and skip all this nonsense.

To my suprise today was better, i guess everybody decide to work overtime, the road was pretty smooth. On the way back it took me only 45 minutes, though there was minor jam here and there, but it always a sheer joy and the highlight of my day to escape the jam.

Funny pictures

2009-05-04T07:02:00.000-07:00

Some shots taken during my holiday in KK, it's either accidently or purposely candid...

1......2......"SMIRK"..hehehehe..trademark boboi...

dad posing...

Perez and boboi at KKBox - Air Supply Duet

This photo taken at The Waterfront. Huiyoh mindutz..

This one at Mimpian Jadi Resort, Tuaran - mum took this shot. Mandy says i look like superman mo terbang, except i don't have a cape.

Boboi nyanyi lagu jiwang - At KKBox. can see the urat bah..

hahaha last but not least this one my favourite!..lol!!! we're at Magellen Sutera Harbour

Some 26 little things about me..

2009-04-16T18:22:00.000-07:00

Ok, I got this from my sister's blog.

Some 26 little things about me..

ABCDEFGHIJKLMNOPQRSTUVWXYZ

A - Available : Married to Benard Parenpa
B - Best Friend : My hubby Benard Parenpa
C - Crush : HUGE Crush on Robert Pattinson after watching Twilight he's so hot!!
D - Dad's Name : Nikomedis Binin
E - Easiest Person To Talk To : My Hubby : )
F - Favorite Band : Linkin Park
G - Gummy Bears Or Worms : gummy bears
H - Hometown : Penampang, Kota Kinabalu
I - Instrument : So far I've guitar.
J - Job : Asst Manager, would hope to be the boss one day
K - Kids : working on it.
L - Longest Car Ride : Well not exactly in a car but sure does the longest joruney i had on by land KL to Koh Samui..12 hours journey
M - Milk Flavor : Chocolate flavour
N - Number Of Siblings : 3 (I'm the eldest)
O - One Wish : World Peace
P - Phobias : "cicak" and Clowns
Q - Favorite Quote : there's so many but one of them is "
R - Reason To Smile : When somebody makes me happy
S - Song You Last Heard : Britney Spears If You Seek Amy
T - Time You Woke Up : 6.30AM
U - Unknown Fact About Me : I'm so fragile
V - Vegetable : Baby Kailan
W - Worst Habits : Extremely emotional, and my hands pick on my hair especially when I'm reading
X - X-Rays You've Had : it was 2004, was infected with virus, they had to do a lot of test
Y - Your Favorite Food : there's a lot - I love seafood! and also love my dad's Hinava and Steam Fish
Z - Zodiac Sign : Leo

testimonials part 2

2009-03-26T20:11:00.000-07:00

RaVeNie
08/20/2005 11:48 am

Hellupz my pretty cousin......she's my sifu in learning me how to dance when i was little,still remember da song "Vanilla ice" :),very talented.She's sweet,caring and very supportive cousin.Most of all,she's very hardworking lady.......

Miss you very much....... :P

Mandy
08/19/2005 1:05 pm

hehehe...diz is ma very beautiful sista....well,she's alwayz making a lot of funny jokez....she realy crackz me out wif ol her funny wayz of doin thingz...she can b very strict too...but in a very nice way..i can tel her a lot of stuff,n ask her anything..d best thing bout ma sis's she givz me a lot of tipz in studies,boyz,fashionz,etc...n yepz,i owez borrow her clothes,cuz her style is almost like ma style..eventhough i'm d teenage rugged chix,but now i've changed 2 a matured teenager la...haha! she'z a really great sis to hav...n i love her so much..wel..cant wait 2 go 2 kL..yeah1we can enjoy...go clubz&pubz eh..hehehe...gud2...i like dat plan..=)

Mandy
03/18/2005 4:05 pm

kakak!!!!~~~~....wahahahaha!!
~~....eLLooo...how r u?? mizz u
laaa....mizz Kay
eLL..hahaha...mM=wel...diz person rite
here is my only sista....i envy so0o
much...cuz she nie mmg
bertanggungjawab...cehh waaa...fun to b
wit...mmg lawak...style driving mmg
best...klu laju nda jua...klu slow nda
jua...but perfect la...hehehe...mM=wat
else...she'z beautiful mcm
artist..hahaha...mM=dunno agn laa...nex
tym la agn i testi kakak...okiez...LuRv
U...MiZz U.. MuAxX!!~~
Alex
09/06/2005 12:37 pm
- My Eldest sister!!!
  Well, for like decades Ive been asking her to join this freakin thingand guess what, others have wrote her a testimonial first than me..hahaha neat.
  Shes the greatest eldest sister I have and nothing to compare in this world. In all my hard times, my bad times and even during difficulties, she is always there to give me a hand, guide me and most of all showing the love and an example as an eldest sister. Currently not available, hahahah She is now with the man whom I think is the best and brilliant person I have ever met. Cheers.

Really missed them all..missed the good old days..

Testimonials i received from my brother and cousins

2009-03-26T20:04:00.000-07:00

I was deleting all the comments and testimonials I received in my Friendster account, and found these tertimonials from my brother and cousins..it's kinda funny and very nice to read. These was posted about 3 - 4 years ago. hehehe..

A u D R e Y
09/20/2005 12:48 am

bibeh... bibeh.. what can i say about her? well, she's one great person. I had the typical kampung chilhood with her... and I DON't REGRET IT. I don't think i would be able to forget our fashion sense during our childhood. (man.. aren't we doomed?? and we have to carry that for the rest of our lives.... hahaha). anyway, bibeh@anne, has always been the matured one. helping us to get out off trouble. BUT, underneath the sheets of being a goody goody..... she's one hell of a laugher.. and she knows how to "move it, move it".

I'm pretty sure that any man who gets her is blessed. She's responsible, She's quiet, but not dull. she listens... and she's fun. Above all, she has a big heart... and hardworking.

I'm blessed to get a cousin like bibeh.. and i love u gal. ;)

PeReZ
09/11/2005 6:07 pm

Hallo....Well-well, What can i say bout this one.. Hmmm... It's eyes are Blue,(Nice!) Cute!! and...Hehehe... I can only see a cat there.(Jk!) Anyway, I'm back in Tawau now.. BiBeH@R.Besar..Is one of my cousin who i seldom meet since this nowadays. If i'm not mistaken, this year, I haven't meet her Oh... Adui, i wonder how you look like already (Bah! Konon lupa suda laa...) Hehe...Well hope can meet you though.Kay then! Take Care~

Alex
09/09/2005 3:50 pm

Okay this is my 2nd testimesti mau reply tau..hahahah
Bibeh @ Robot Besar @ Jus Karipaprupanya my kakak!..hahahah wouldnt you know it, tiba2 dah pandai menyesuaikan diri kat frensteruiisehh!! I can be more happier with my sis, its only that, she has found her own life and thats when she have to spend more time with his personal things than with kami2 yg nakal2 dungu2 plus a kind of maniac in certain ways..(haha ko la tue Audrey!), but then, I really wish she would stay here in KK after dah settle down with her Mr. Rightc la haw..bah ke lah.macam tu je laacheers.

those were the day part 2

2009-03-12T09:06:00.000-07:00

the last reunion before departure
mount kinabalu expedition

cast of Cinderella, we were just the "pelakon sampingan"

can't really remember this part but i remember acting as a nutty professor..lol

those were the days..

2009-03-11T18:06:00.000-07:00

Last night I was looking for my high photo and I could only manage to find this one. I think this the only high school photo I have with me in KL. Looking back at those years it never fails to amaze me how much time have passed so swiftly. This photo was taken 15 years ago (1994) in SM Stella Maris, Kota Kinabalu Sabah. Our class were elected to represent our school to compete in marching state level.

Thanks to Facebook I'm still in contact with all three of them. Since we left high school we have been going to our separate ways to fullfill our dreams. A lot of things have change and some still remains. From left Shirley Clement Makulim married, now a full time housewife or should I say the house manager, she has 2 beautiful babies, soon to open her own franchise business in Kota Kinabalu. Next to her is Emily Clarice the most active person working now in govertment sectors in Putrajaya - Education Department, still single and so those who interested ahem..well the counters is open. Next to me is Mandy Chu, still single, if not mistaken she does have a boyfriend I think, you can go to her blog at http://www.mandarch.com/.

Oh well, I'm yet to attend any reunion with my old school friends. Really missed my high school memories it was the best.

oh ya..the lady in the middle was our principle Ms Pauline.

some of my favourite quotes..

2009-03-11T07:28:00.000-07:00

"A good home must be made, not bought" - Joyce Maynard

"Love is staying up all night with a sick child or a healthy adult" - David Frost

"I was born when you kissed me. I died when you left me. I lived a few weeks while you loved me" - Humprey Bogart

There are really only three types of people; those who make things happen, those who watch things happen and those who say " What happened?" - Ann Landers

When I hear somebody sigh, "Life is hard," I am always tempted to ask , "Compared to what?" - Sydney J Harris

lets rewind

2009-03-11T07:05:00.000-07:00

in kundasang

me and my little bro and sister in Hot spring
me still a baby

1 year old - Antonia Lorrine Nikomedis. Penampang kondis house

My heart thumped heavily during the whole movie..

2009-02-26T17:42:00.000-08:00

It was just one of those days where I was too tired to read or to do anything. Felt like snuggling into my bed and watch some good movie. The problem was there was nothing new to watch. As I was going through all my stack of DVD’s I came across this horror movie bought by my husband (I would never buy any horror movie) called REC. The synopsis does not elaborate much about movie; it doesn't say anything about a monster, ghost, spirit or a killer. It is kinda mysterious though, so I guess it won't harm me to watch.

In the beginning the movie starts of very normal, nothing interesting. I did not have any clue about what this movie is all about. After 20 minutes or so the horror then began and my heart began thumping so heavily. I was holding my breath to withhold the horror and adrenaline trying not to scream. Surprisingly I continue to watch it to the end, it kept you wondering and wanted to know more about reasonbehind all the mysterious happening. Apart from the excruciating tremors experience, the movie director successfully able to take the audience into the tremors of roller coaster, it is as if you're part of the movie as well.

I guessed this was the best horror movie I ever watch, it's very entertaining really brings out the chicken in you; anybody might even get a nightmare. I thought was going to vomit, fortunately I did not.

Although the movie was over its still keep playing over and over in my head; I began feeling very paranoid which of course very stupid. My heart was still thumping so loud that I bet even the neighbor could hear. So I had to watch another movie happy and cheerful comedy movie just to keep me calm.

I would really recommend anybody who enjoy this kind of movie to watch it, watch out for the bogeyman..heheheh. There'll be the REC 2 and I'm looking forward for it

The Other Boleyn Girl

2009-02-17T16:31:00.000-08:00

A movie based on fiction novel written by British author Philippa Gregory. It is a romanticized account of the lives of 16th-century aristocrats Mary Boleyn(Scarlett Johansson), one-time mistress of King Henry VIII(Eric Bana), and her sister Anne Boleyn (Natalie Portman), who became the monarch's ill-fated second wife. These two sisters, are driven by their ambitious Father and Uncle to advance the family's power and status by courting the affections of the King of England.

A very astounding movie, depict the weakness of human greed for lust, power and wealth. It's very enjoyable and entertaing to watch. Although the real historical accuracy is unlikely portrayed as in the movie. Then again with two beautiful and talented actress I am pretty much happy to see that side of them shown in their character.

Defiance

2009-02-01T20:43:00.000-08:00

I recently watched a movie Defiance. It tells a story during the World War II, somewhere in Poland. Poland Jews was practically killed by the German Nazi it was then lead by the the infamous Hitler.

It's a true story about four Jewish brothers from Poland who escaped the Nazi persecution and fought back to rescue fellow Jews.

I would recommended to watch this movie, it's quite a slow and long story (3 hour 30 minutes) but from my opinion it's worth to watched. Seeing the struggling to survive, while being hunted by the Nazi, not knowing whether you will live soon enough to get through the war.

I cannot help but to feel blessed and thankful to God that we are living in a country with peace and harmony. At the same time knowing that some other part of the world at these present moment there are countries who are living in fear and cruelty amongts each other.

Polish hostages being blindfolded during preparations for their mass execution in Palmiry, 1940

Execution of 56 Polish civilians in Bochnia during the German occupation of Poland; December 18, 1939

There is this one scene where the jews caught one of the Nazi soldier. He was begging for mercy under the group horrified and angry jews whose family was brutaly killed. The nazi's crying and begging to spear his life for he has a wife and two childrens to take care as well. What about the childrens and wife that he killed? I asked myself who was to blame for all this brutality and cruelty? What is more greater than life itself? It is such a horrendous situation but sad to say it does happened even up till today.

Can't get enough

2009-01-15T17:31:00.000-08:00

I recently watch this romance-thiller movie The Twilight. A movie based on a bestselling novel by Stephenie Meyer. I was not all excited about it at first, although the hollywood's entertaiment pretty much praising this new actor Robert Pattinson who is playing as Edward Cullen the gorgeous vampire. He even appeared in one of Tyra's show due to this recent release of the Twilight movie.

Soon after watching it much to my suprise I'd really enjoyed the movie. I guess everybody knows the storyline right? It's about a girl named Bella (Kristen Stwart) and vampire Edward(Robert Pattinson) who falls in with each other . I got so glued to it and I found out there's a sequel to this story, another 3 more novels. I couldn't wait for the next movie to come which is in this coming November 09. So I bought the 3 other novels, New Moon, Elclipse and Breaking Dawn( recently release in 2008), and must say the ending was a good one. I was into it so much that I finish the third sequel in one whole day.

Rob Pattinson & Kristen Stewart

The soundtrack is awesome and I can't get enough of it. I especially like the Bella's Lullaby, it's just so sweet, so beautiful and comforting to listen. I also enjoy the Supermassive Black Hole by Muse, it haunted over and over again in my head. Overall I love all the Twilight OST.

HaPPy new Year 2009!!!

2008-12-30T01:34:00.000-08:00

A year has gone by, looking back you be wondering how time flies so fast. It's the time where we reminiscing and dwells upon our past memories good times and bad times. For every new year that comes around we wish and pray for it to be a joyfull and prosperous year. Nothing can change the past but we can create the future we want.

There is a saying every day is a new day you decide to have a happy day or you can continue regreting the past and live in it.

I found myself learning about myself everyday and grow maturely, it is something that I treasured so much. Another 28 days to go for my 1st year wedding anniversary, and I'm glad me and my other half are still very much together and we have learn to understand and cherish each other even better .

For my 2009 new year resolutions my main concerns would be my spiritual side. Getting to know more about God and to put Him first in our life and living the right way as Christians.

Secondly as newly wed (well not so new lah) hoping to start a family and I am very excited to go through motherhood experience.

Third would be financial aspect, living in KL is not as easy as it seems the expenses are double and you find yourself spending every single day eventhough your staying at home. So rather than spending, I ought to find a way to make extra income, and yes investment, better start now, world economy is going down and slow, they even predicts that 2009 will face the worst scenarios. I personally think that it's the best time to equip and be prepared.

Fourth, healthwise, 2008 was not a very good year for me. I went through tough time with me falling sick due to the Chikunya virus. Then I found out that my body is very sensitive insect bites, previously I had rashes all over my hands and feet.

Oh well, anyway, these are some of my resolutions for year 2009. Wish all the best to everybody on their future undertakings. World Peace!!!!!!!!!!!!

Financial Freedom

2008-12-29T22:47:00.000-08:00

Financial Freedome..ahh..the sounds of it gives sense of relieved. No more bills, debts, loans...etc. Well for some people they choose to married the rich, others will get wealth from their parents, many will buy number or gamble and to some extend do illegal work.

Unfortunately all these does not favor to everybody, so what else can we do? We invest!! Yes, investment is another way to get rich and I believe that each of us are capable to reach our goal if we have the sheer determination and desire.

There some many ways to invest your money, you can put in Fixed Deposit, open up own business, Unit Trust, Property or Stock Market. Of course many would assume that investing is very risky and only apply to those with big money in the pocket. That is one myth that always deters sturggling people like us to even tought about going into investment. Well the good news is it's the very good reason why people like us are suppose to think about in making more bucks and aiming for our financial freedom.

Like new born babies they learn to crawl before they stands, and starts to walk by the time they are good at standing. The same way goes to us, we need to equip and educate ourselves before we even start to invest. The interesting part is you don't need to have a degree or having a profession to become an investor, any laymen can do this as long as we have the determination and will to achieve our goal because it has been proven.

If we train ouselves to take control of our financial, by doing the right way of investing your money, you will receive an abundant in the future. There are a lot of institution that provide financial training on how your can maximize your monies and be good at it. Investing your money in educating yourself and is a good and wise investment, but you must have the right kind of mindset.

If we failed to put our 100% it will just be wasting your time and money. So do have the right mindset and set your goal. I am on my way to that goal now because I wouldn't want to invest my time to earn on my monthly salary for the next 25 years. Use money to make money, use time to spent it with your families that's my goal.

Seven Bible Tips for a Happy Marriage

2008-12-21T20:38:00.000-08:00

Marriage between a man and woman was ordained by God Himself in the Garden of Eden. “And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.” Genesis 2:22

Reconciliation a Possiblity
Though marriage often starts out in a garden of hopes and promises, too often it ends in a graveyard of disillusionments and disappointments. But the Bible offers the hope of reconciliation for broken relationships.

“And all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation. To wit, that God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto himself, not imputing their trespasses unto them; and hath committed unto us the word of reconciliation.” 2 Corinthians 5:18, 19

Not only that, but the Bible has clear counsel on how to have and maintain a happy marriage. Here are Seven Tips from Scripture.

1. Put God first in your home.

“Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it.” Psalm 127:1 “In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” Proverbs 3:6

2. Hold each other in high esteem.

“Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.” 1 Peter 4:8 “Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honouring each other.” Romans 12: 10 (New Living Translation)

3. Never take your anger to bed.

“Let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil.” Ephesians 4: 26, 27 “Be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” Ephesians 4:32

4. Pray together.

“Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed.” James 5:16

5. Guard against intruders.

“Thou shalt not commit adultery.” Exodus 20:14 “Anyone who even looks at a woman with lust in his eye has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:28 (New Living Translation) There are countless ways to have an affair. Physical and emotional intimacy between a husband and wife must be strictly guarded against all intruders.

6. Look for the positive.

“It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.” Proverbs 21:19 “And you husbands must love your wives and never treat them harshly.” Colossians 3:19 (New Living Translation

7. Speak softly.

“A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.” Proverbs 15:1

5 rules for a happy marriage - the recipe for a happy marriage

2008-12-21T20:29:00.000-08:00

There is no secret to a perfect marriage. If marriage could give you a glimpse of heaven, it could give you as much of hell. There is even a famous saying where the perfect marriage can only be found between a deaf and a blind couple, because the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of his wife, while the blind wife cannot see the shortcomings of her husband.

Of course, there are also those couples who are lucky enough to be soul mates. Being truly and deeply in love with each other is more than what most people could ask for in a relationship. But even love is not enough to sustain a relationship. There are other factors that come into play. Why then do people get married? Is it to have a family?

Is it to have someone to grow old with? Is it for wealth and security? All of these count, but there’s a bigger reason. Marriage is when you give so much of yourself and yet, you feel whole. Something as special as marriage should be nurtured forever.

So what do couples need to keep it? Trust, love, respect, compassion, and patience are all important. But even the best marriages can run into trouble. This is because couples tend to take the simplest things for granted.

Would you like to know some of these things? Then read on. Proven tips for a happy marriage:

Point 1: Be independent. Just because you marry, it doesn’t mean you must embrace everything about your partner. Sometimes, you forget about how different you two are because you’ve been together for so long. Don’t lose your uniqueness because it’s the same thing that attracted both you and your partner in the first place. Try to take on different interests and encourage your partner to do so too.

Point 2: Never be angry at the same time. When you’re angry, you hear nothing else and you don’t care about anything else. If you find that both you and your partner are angry, try to have some space. Calm down. Then talk. Be sensitive to each other’s ups and downs. Talk through the problem and hear each other out. Abandon the whole world rather than each other. And never go to sleep without settling the argument. Most importantly, never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.

Point 3: If you have to disagree, do it lovingly. There will be lots of times when you and your spouse won’t agree at all in some aspects. Don’t make your point sound like a criticism to your partner. It doesn’t matter who is wrong or right. Always bear in mind that an argument doesn’t need a winner or a loser.

Point 4: Never bring up mistakes of the past. Whenever something goes wrong, do not rub past issues in. Don’t dwell over the past such that you become blind with the wonderful things ahead of your relationship.

Point 5: At least once every day, try to say one thoughtful or complimentary thing to your partner. When a couple always spends time with each other, they often forget about courtesy. “Take the trash out. Do the laundry.” Isn’t there something missing in those phrases? Perhaps putting “Please” before each sentence would make it sound so much better. Never take each other for granted.

Showing constantly that you both like each other will help keep your relationship fresh. Even something as simple as complementing on your spouse’s looks or buying little unexpected gifts can help. Look for the things that would make your partner feel appreciated.

How do you live by the guidelines stated earlier? Lower your pride. But don’t get me wrong. Pride is a good thing. It keeps your head high in public. It's not a bad thing to have pride in someone or something. But in private, when you're with your partner, keep the pride level down; because it becomes a wall your partner would have to overcome.

My top five Christmas presents

2008-12-18T16:46:00.000-08:00

Christmas season is one of my favourite celebration of the year. I've made my top five list of present that I would really love to get, and I hope that "Santa" might have something for me this year.

My top five christmas present :

05. Shoes - I've been longing for this Scholl sandal I saw at Mid Valley

04. Handbag - Recently I saw this Jimmy Choo's at handbags...it's to die for!!
Wish i can have it all

03. Watch - maybe Guess (again!) or Bonia they have pretty nice design

02. Purse - Leather purse would last longer.

01. Laptop - I need one so that I can keep posting my blog...*alasan hehehe

Well what would I get for my christmas present??? Stay tune!!

Merry Christmas and Happy Holiday!!!

Poor taxi service in KL

2008-12-17T19:36:00.000-08:00

My car broke down, and I got an interview tomorrow at 9.00am. So much for good news I'm now stuck with no transport. Without hesitant I search for taxi's number on the net, dialled one of the taxi company.

Phone conversation

Me : Hello, i wanna book a taxi for tomorrow
taxi operator : mau pigi mana?
me : nak pegi Putrajaya
Taxi operator: address apa?? <----
me : address???
Taxi operator: u punya address?
me: oh..ok..no 1-107, ..... saya nak taxi pukul 7.30am ok?
Taxi operator: besok pukol 7 kami call balik untuk confirm nombor taxi. ada surcharge sepuluh ringgit untuk booking.
me : ok, thank you.

So it was done, all i need to do now is to get enough sleep and ready for the inrteview tomorrow.

The next morning it was 7.00am, i waited for the taxi to call...1...2...3 minutes.....5 minutes passed by. I started to feel restless. Gosh this is not happening. I peep outside no sign of taxi. I grab my cell and dial the taxi number

Taxi operator: halo!
me : umh..hello, i ada buat booking semalam nak pegi putrajaya pukul 7.30am, boleh tolong check tak?
Taxi operator: address??

i gave the address

Taxi operator: sekejap ah..
she put me on hold and I waited for about 5 minutes which feels like eternity

Taxi operator: sorry ah takda taxi pegi subang
me : what!! i sudah buat booking semalam, macam mana pula takde taxi!!!??
i almost lost it

taxi operator : ya tapi memang sekarang takda taxi pegi subang..u call try lagi nanti ok ah?
then she hung up

Omigod I couldn't believe what just happened, it was 7.45am and I was running late. I called another taxi company, they gave me the same reply " sori takda taxi pegi subang". I was cursing by myself for what just happened. I can't imagine what lousy taxi company we have here in KL.

I did manage to get cab from the main road and was late for 15 minutes for my interview. Well so much for public transport when you can't even get a decent service with the operator. One thing I learn from this - make 4 or 5 bookings to secure your bookings or even better try to get the taxi driver's personal number.

Oh ya by the way out of the 15 taxi listed in the website, only 4 company's is operating, the rest is either no answer, terminated, wrong number, engaged or invalid number.

Koh Samui Thailand Trip

2008-12-16T23:35:00.000-08:00

One of the Big Buddha near Lamai Beach

"honey would you like to have this for dinner?" lobster cost around 1000bath - 1100bath per kilogram (about RM10/Kg)

feeding the elephant banana

riding elephant - it was fun

see behind - The Grandfather Rock

The Temple

This is how mineral bottle in Thailand look like . I took this while wiating for my bus ride to Sadoa (jetty to Koh samui)

This photo was taken in Koh Samui Thailand

Baby Mice

2008-11-19T20:03:00.000-08:00

nahh..anak tikus..eeiii..

I came across these photos in Flickr, tiny, little red skin baby mice. I remembered my mom use to tell me that in those days, these baby mices were consume to cure asthma, and it's known to be very effective.

I also found out that in Korea, they actually produce baby mice wine, eeuuuwww...my stomach is churning thinking about it. For the same reason, it is use to cure all kinds of health problem, whereby people who don't have anough money to see doctor will brew this baby mice as a remedy.

Poor little baby mice... kena jual di kedai juga.

Felix my favourite pet

2008-11-05T23:24:00.001-08:00

This was my cat Felix, I found him in Kota Tinggi Resort he was just a little kitten 1 month old. My heart just sank seeing this kitten so helpless looking for his mother.

Mak Hitam (a black cat) his mother was loitering around looking for other male cat (gatal punya kucing). So I've decide to take Felix as my pet. My oh my..it was difficult at first..but with my skills I manage to train Felix to do his business in the toilets. :P

Wrestle with felix his favourite pass time

Extremely naughty and playful, wouldn't leave you even a second. I end up having bad scars on both my hands...

Felix a kitten - 1st day saw him

A grown up cat..Felix is just 7 months old....

Posing with the camera...

On April 2008, we had to go back to Kuala Lumpur, I didn't have the heart to leave Felix so brought him along.

Unfortunately, I had another cat in KL - Lady (btw he's male cat as well). So you could guess when another male cat step into his territory...its like world war 3. I pitied Felix, I had to keep him in the room to keep him away from Lady. So sorry to him in the room alone - we should'nt keep animal in a cage.

On August 31, we had to go for a long holiday so I've decide to let Felix out from house while we were away. What I didn't know that was the last time I see Felix, he'd never come back. Part of me feel sad, really missed Felix a lot, on the hand I felt a bit relieve I don't have to kept him inside room.

Men vs Women

2008-10-30T01:38:00.000-07:00

Difference between Men and Women

NICKNAMES
If Laura, Suzanne, Debra and Rose go out for lunch, they will call each other Laura, Suzanne, Debra and Rose.
If Mike, Charlie, Bob and John go out, they will affectionately refer to each other as Fat Boy, Godzilla, Peanut-Head and Scrappy
* betul juga oh

EATING OUT
When the bill arrives, Mike, Charlie, Bob and John will each throw in $20, even though it's only for $32.50. None of them will have anything smaller, and none will actually admit they want change back.
When the girls get their bill, out come the pocket calculators.
* berkirakan heheheh

MONEY
A man will pay $2 for a $1 item he wants.
A woman will pay $1 for a $2 item that she doesn't want.
* happens to me all the time

BATHROOMS
A man has six items in his bathroom: a toothbrush, shaving cream, razor, a bar of soap, and a towel from the Holiday Inn.<---- sia ada byk stock
The average number of items in the typical woman's bathroom is 337. A man would not be able to identify most of these items.
*my hubby only has a toothbrush,itupun sia yang beli

ARGUMENTS
A woman has the last word in any argument.
Anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument.
* oohh so true..

CATS
Women love cats.
Men say they love cats, but when women aren't looking, men kick cats.

FUTURE
A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband.
A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.
* not all men or women i supposed

SUCCESS
A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend.
A successful woman is one who can find such a man.

MARRIAGE
A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't.
A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change and she does.
* change for good reason(s)

DRESSING UP
A woman will dress up to go shopping, water the plants, empty the garbage, answer the phone, read a book, and get the mail.
A man will dress up for weddings and funerals
* not to forget women need to wash the laundry, mop the floor, wash the toilets...list go on

NATURAL
Men wake up as good-looking as they went to bed.
Women somehow deteriorate during the night.

OFFSPRING
Ah, children. A woman knows all about her children. She knows about dentist appointments and romances, best friends, favorite foods, secret fears and hopes and dreams.
A man is vaguely aware of some short people living in the house.
*LOL

COOKING
Men good at cooking but lousy at cleaning
Women good at cleaning but also good at cooking..hehhehehe

Thankfully my husband is not entirely as such..

Tagged: Ten Favourite Photo

2008-10-29T18:33:00.000-07:00

I've been tagged by Aunty Doll...so its my turn..Okay, well these are just one of my ten favourite photos, oleh kerana sudah kena tagged what to do..I didn't have time to search for photots, so i just grab these which is in my pc, I probably have to break the rules as well..hehehehe (hey everybody does it right?)..jeng-jeng-jeng

bibi@antonia lorrine Nikomedis

Anybody who can resist this?? plate full of yummies!!

love this photo -

My sister sleeping (pukul 10am still sleeping) and Taichi/3G?

me in my Saree

my childhood
- my brother & cousin audrey

3G/Taichi...with one leg hanging on the side bed

my beloved dad & mom

- now you know where I got my looks (masuk bakul angkat sendiri :P )

My hubby love of my life
- minus the champagne glass

yes i now it's not even 10 photo hehehhe..so now i would like to tagged my mom

Dream Car..

2008-10-13T21:49:00.001-07:00

My dream car will definitely be the Mercedes Benz B Class ( sort of mini MPV type) because it is very practical and a bit sporty better than the Merc A Class. Not too big not too small, just nice, and of course the Audi TT Coupe for its sporty and sexy look.

" To All Married Couples and To All Future Couples!!!!

2008-09-23T18:31:00.000-07:00

Someone sent me this article, it is something for us to ponder about our life over the weekend..happy reading!

"When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down andate quietly.Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I hadto let her knowwhat I was thinking.

I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she> asked me softly, why?I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!

That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was> weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to alovely girlcalled Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company andthe car.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for herwasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expectedto see.

To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now. The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing somethingat the table.

I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fellasleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing.

I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again. In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce.

She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a months time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy.

Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. Sheclosed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door.

She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office. On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest.. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying!

Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this.

It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed,all my dresses have grown bigger.

I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more> easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out.

To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change mymind at this last minute.

I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad.

On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office... jumped out of the carswiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make m change my mind...I walked upstairs.

Dew opened the door and I said to her,Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce.

My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home onour wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does us apart. Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote: 'I'll carry you out every morning until death do us> apart' The small details of our lives are what really matter in a> relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters.

These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build> intimacy.

Do have a real happy marriage! If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you, but if you do, you just might save a marriage. Relationships are made not to exploit, not to be broken.

We teach some by what we say we teach some more by what we do But we teach most by what we are Unknown You don't get to choose how you are going to die, or when, but, you can decide how you are going to live, here and now. "

pantun budak-budak

2008-09-19T02:35:00.000-07:00

Pantun

"Pigi pasar beli cendul,
cari lombong biji timah,
kerja office banyak betul
tidak sabar mo balik rumah"

Marriage

2008-09-17T23:27:00.000-07:00

I can't help it but to post this article in my blog..

"DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, 'How do I know if I married the right person?' I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It depends. Is that your husband?' In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?' Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer. EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse / partner . You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit). Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience.

You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU. People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept of my feet.' Think about the imagery of that __expression.

It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU. Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades.

It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown.

People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love.. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression 'the labor of love.' Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect.

If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can 'make' love. Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'... Not just a feeling.

Remember this always:
'God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'"

Congrats to Mr & Mrs Goh

2008-09-16T20:02:00.000-07:00

Shirley just gave birth to a healty baby boy. Baby Ian Rhye Goh was born on 14thn Sept 2008. Congatulation to you Shea!! It's her second child, her first daughter Abigail was born last year 17th June 2007.

Shirley and her Second Child -- Ian Rhye Goh

First Child -- Abigail Goh

Hotel Ghost?

2008-09-16T01:18:00.000-07:00

The hotel room we stayed

Some people are skeptic about this, but I for sure believe that ghosts or spirits do exist in this world. I never actually seen one though, but I do hear a lot of stories about ghosts and spirits.
I would like to share with you guys about this story, it happened just recently last month. My mom, sister and aunts came down to KL for a cousin’s wedding in Seremban.
We stayed in one of the well known hotel in Kuala Lumpur, located just around Jalan Tun Razak. This hotel is quite old and judging from the poor maintenance no wonder “special guest” likes to stay here. Our room was at 26th floor, and the view was quite a spectacular you can see almost the whole town of KL.
That evening, I was trying to transfer some files from my mom’s hand phone using Bluetooth and while it was searching for my hand phone, a name “Ibrahim:)”appeared online. Right then I didn’t bother at all. Later I use my aunt’s hand phone to Bluetooth some files, the same name “Ibrahim :)” appeared again, so I was a bit surprise because only my hand phone’s Bluetooth was ON, but these name keep appearing. I jokingly say a ghost by the name of “Ibrahim” staying in the room with us. I really regret saying that now.
This is where the chilling part is, that same night while everybody was sleeping, my sister was suddenly awakened, and she notices a figure looking was walking around the room in the dark, she didn’t’ bother at first, thinking it was any aunt, but the weird thing is the figure sat on floor and looked as if it was looking for something in a bag, when there’s actually no bag at that particular area. After awhile she heard somebody flipping pages from a magazine and notice there were nobody, obviously who would want to read in the dark? Even my mom heard it, and it happened for couple of hours and suddenly it just stops. I was still skeptical about it until I was told this particular hotel is actually famous for encountering this “special guest” especially at night.
So it seems that we were not the only one experienced this weird things in that hotel, in fact just few days ago I came across this headlines in the STAR newspaper “Engineer died in a hotel room” cause of death is unknown, he died in the bathtub, there was a minor cut on his lips, the hotel is located at Jalan Tun Razak…do you think?..you guess..lah

cute!

2008-09-12T02:43:00.000-07:00

so adorable!!..

new blogger

2008-09-11T17:47:00.000-07:00

I've been an avid blog reader just recently and i found it very amusing. it took me for ahwile to decide to have my own blog. It is something new for me and sure hope that I could spent more time updating this web blog. so enjoyed the ride..and happy blogging!!